How to cope when you had no control over what happened.

First you need to still realize that you need to use your ME Reflex(mental & emotional) for each and every situation in your life.

You need to do this even more so when you had no control over what has happened. Doing this will help you to not only not take things personally but it will also help you not have to deal with so much unneeded drama.

So if someone says something to you that is very hurtful, you need to dismiss what they are saying almost as soon as the words are coming out of their mouths. As they are talking, tune out what they are saying and start telling yourself that what they are doing is mean, cruel, and immature. Tell yourself as they are still talking, that you don't need their negativity in your life. You don't have time for it and you refuse to make time for it.

You have every right to say nothing. Stand there thinking what I just told you to and as soon as you are done, look that awful person in the face and tell them you don't have time for their crap. Turn and walk away.

If you stay in an attempt to try to defend yourself, you will only be feeding the fire and letting that person get the best of you.

You don't need to justify yourself or prove anybody wrong. You know who you are and what you are worth. If they can't see that and have the need to insult you, they do not deserve to have you in their lives.

As soon as you walk away go and distract yourself with something positive. Whatever makes you happy. As hard as it seems to do this, you will find that finding a distraction immediately will be just what you needed to get over the situation and it will also make the "situation" turn to just a small glitch in your day!

Remember that things are only as important as we make them. Everything that is negative, needs to mean nothing. Positive things are everything because the memory of those positive things is what provides one with hope, inspiration and happiness!

I have learned to do this over the years and because of it I have been able to free myself from so much drama and negativity. Having depression, the chances of an insult really doing some damage is pretty high, so using this ME Reflex has helped me so much. I have started to become immune to the evil in this world.

Practice dismissing a person as they are speaking to you, if it is even the slightest bit negative, and you will start gaining the power that person is loosing!

Thought for the day:

When someone does or says something in an attempt to hurt you, it is just them loosing control, take that control that they are loosing and use it to become the wiser!

Truly Yours

Dr. Nobody