Start off small.
When I talk about taking control of your Depression, I don't expect it can be done in a week! There are too many things to change and strengthen. Changes you thoughts about stuff takes time and repetition. It's something you have to do daily. It's not hard to do either.
Everyone in the world at almost everything they do, can apply the concepts that can change their lives! There are at least five times in you day that you can apply any one or all four of the Four Agreements.
You know, when I first had read them, a part of me was afraid to change. I thought that if what the book said was true that then that meant that I wouldn't care about things anymore. Years later, it was right. I no longer care for the drama, negativity, problems, opinions of others. This turned out to be just what I needed! Not caring about all those things meant that I was CHOSING not to let them in my life. Granted, I still have my own problems, but not other peoples problems. If someone I know has drama, I don't get involved, give advice if they come to me but in all, I keep my distance so that their crap doesn't invade my space.
Everyone can easily make another's problem their own, and most of the world does that. You don't have to take stuff personally, if you don't, you just took yourself out of the drama. That means you have more time to free!
You can do your best at work, school, or home. You can be taking a test, in a meeting, or cleaning house....and still tell yourself to do your best! And because you keep telling yourself to do your best, you will, and you will feel good with every task you do!
When I'm driving, I constantly tell myself to do my best and pay attention. Do my best to be aware of the cars around me, weather conditions, animals, and how my own car is driving.
At work, I tell myself to do my best to get stuff done and done right. The end of the day comes and I'm happy with what I did do!
I don't take it personally when I'm attacked for something. If I made a mistake on something, I say oh well, let's fix it and done!
When someone wants to judge me, my immediate thought is "you don't know me", and most times I won't even bother correcting their judgement. I actually take pleasure in knowing that they don't know how wrong they are, they can go ahead and walk around with a head full of nothing!!
In my line of work, things have to be very clear. I have to know exacting what I am doing and there is no guessing. I can't make any assumptions. Besides, it flatters people to be asking all kinds of questions, they feel smart!
I'm honest in how I will tell things how they are not how you wish them to be. I'm not one for insulting, degrading or even for complimenting. If I'm in an argument, I would rather keep my mouth shut so that I don't say things in the heat of the moment.
You need to constantly have it in the back of your head, that you are not going to say hurtful or misleading thing, not let anyone ruin your day, ask questions so you understand and communicate better, and always always tell yourself to do your best!
Truly
Dr. Nobody
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Don't abandon us!
We have Depression and at our lowest, we depend on the kindness and care from others. Don't give up on us! We need you to show us the way back to life!
I don't get why when we are at our worst, all the sudden we find ourselves alone. This isn't always, kudos to the friends and family who have stuck in there giving and giving! As for the rest of you said " I can't do this anymore!" and walked away or denied to help when you do have it in your means to do so.....God's watching you!!!!
When you deny someone, anyone in their time of need, you only encourage the loss of hope they have. They already think that they are alone and that there is nothing good in life, and by you turning away....you just proved them right. It doesn't matter if they happen to be in need a lot, the point is that they need. It's not like they want, no they need!
You have no idea how your words and attitude impact our minds when you don't make yourself available when we need you most. Like a broken record we play them over and over and with each time it brings sadness, anger, and loss.
What has happened to this world? We have forgotten how to be human.
Thought for the day:
I delight in God's having warned you, yet you think you do right, you will see...today it's called "karma".
Always
Dr. Nobody
We have Depression and at our lowest, we depend on the kindness and care from others. Don't give up on us! We need you to show us the way back to life!
I don't get why when we are at our worst, all the sudden we find ourselves alone. This isn't always, kudos to the friends and family who have stuck in there giving and giving! As for the rest of you said " I can't do this anymore!" and walked away or denied to help when you do have it in your means to do so.....God's watching you!!!!
When you deny someone, anyone in their time of need, you only encourage the loss of hope they have. They already think that they are alone and that there is nothing good in life, and by you turning away....you just proved them right. It doesn't matter if they happen to be in need a lot, the point is that they need. It's not like they want, no they need!
You have no idea how your words and attitude impact our minds when you don't make yourself available when we need you most. Like a broken record we play them over and over and with each time it brings sadness, anger, and loss.
What has happened to this world? We have forgotten how to be human.
Thought for the day:
I delight in God's having warned you, yet you think you do right, you will see...today it's called "karma".
Always
Dr. Nobody
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Distracting the depressed!
You have now idea how powerful a good distraction can be! When we the depressed are occupied with stuff, there is hardly any room to be sad. We might be a little short on enthusiasm, but being busy is far better than dwelling in Depression!
For us the depressed:
Keep yourself busy. Find activities that you like that offer rewards. Be it painting, and the reward is being able to be proud of you work. Hiking, the reward being that you not only get to enjoy the view but you get to pat yourself on the back for making it to the top! Anything that involves you doing something, will be a good enough distraction. It will leave you with less time to lay under the covers crying! Trust me, you'll be happy you gave your Depression the run-around!!
For the non-sick people:
Help your loved depressed one to find the distractions and help motivate them. Sometimes you shouldn't even ask if they want to do something, just call and let them know you are on your way, or even in extreme cases....show up unannounced and pull them out of bed or peal them off the couch!!
Remember that Depression is not laziness, attention seeking, or any other stigma the world has placed on it. Depression is a dark place where the dwellers are stripped of happiness, dreams, hope, desire to live, and almost all value in life. So when in a "low" is like when you get to security points in an airport and you have to take all you stuff off and put it in a tub and your luggage goes through the scanner thing, Depression does the same thing, except you don't get to keep you happiness or sane mind when you pass the gate!
Thought for the day:
Sometimes Depression thinks it's winning, give it the run-around and stay one step ahead of it!!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
You have now idea how powerful a good distraction can be! When we the depressed are occupied with stuff, there is hardly any room to be sad. We might be a little short on enthusiasm, but being busy is far better than dwelling in Depression!
For us the depressed:
Keep yourself busy. Find activities that you like that offer rewards. Be it painting, and the reward is being able to be proud of you work. Hiking, the reward being that you not only get to enjoy the view but you get to pat yourself on the back for making it to the top! Anything that involves you doing something, will be a good enough distraction. It will leave you with less time to lay under the covers crying! Trust me, you'll be happy you gave your Depression the run-around!!
For the non-sick people:
Help your loved depressed one to find the distractions and help motivate them. Sometimes you shouldn't even ask if they want to do something, just call and let them know you are on your way, or even in extreme cases....show up unannounced and pull them out of bed or peal them off the couch!!
Remember that Depression is not laziness, attention seeking, or any other stigma the world has placed on it. Depression is a dark place where the dwellers are stripped of happiness, dreams, hope, desire to live, and almost all value in life. So when in a "low" is like when you get to security points in an airport and you have to take all you stuff off and put it in a tub and your luggage goes through the scanner thing, Depression does the same thing, except you don't get to keep you happiness or sane mind when you pass the gate!
Thought for the day:
Sometimes Depression thinks it's winning, give it the run-around and stay one step ahead of it!!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
Defeating the demons.
As I have stated before, I have been battling Depression for many years, and although I have found way to ease the symptoms, I still get tired of it all. I hate that I am responsible for the well being of myself. I want so much to be taken care of and wish that I didn't have to be held accountable for my moods!
It's like when you find out truths in the Bible and once you know, if you go against what you now know, you'd be sinning!
Once you know that most of you Depression can be controlled by you, there's no excuse to letting things get you in such negative ways! I can't stop what others do or say, but I can stop them from doing or saying it to me!
So if something is said and done to me, if it's not the first time, it probably happened because I let it. Now the fault would be mine for having this new hurt. At least I can not let it hurt that much, though!
I can still take responsibility for having given the person the chance to hurt me, and yet be strong enough to not let it bring me down so hard. I might just be grumpy for a while, but not the whole day!
When things like this happens, I just for give myself for letting it happen, for give the person for being an idiot, applaud myself for not letting it ruin my day, and listen to my favorite heavy metal song that surprisingly relaxes me!!
Thought for the day:
Take responsibility, forgive yourself and the idiot, pat yourself on the back!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Friday, January 17, 2014
Just want to disappear?
Sometimes I do!
Not to be confused with being suicidal. Wanting to disappear is not the same thing. I have no wish to hurt myself much less kill myself. Just want to disappear for some time!
Maybe disappear into nothing, thin air, just vanish! Or maybe like up and leave where no one can find me. No phone, no people. Just a place I can lay with the sun shining on my face. A place where I can think with no distractions. Think about all the good things, remember the wonderful memories that I store up for back up! A place I can sit as the sun sets and listen to the sounds of night coming. Once night falls, star gaze and start up a real long conversation with God!
I feel more relaxed just imagining all that! It's wonderful! I think I can get through the rest of my day now!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Sometimes I do!
Not to be confused with being suicidal. Wanting to disappear is not the same thing. I have no wish to hurt myself much less kill myself. Just want to disappear for some time!
Maybe disappear into nothing, thin air, just vanish! Or maybe like up and leave where no one can find me. No phone, no people. Just a place I can lay with the sun shining on my face. A place where I can think with no distractions. Think about all the good things, remember the wonderful memories that I store up for back up! A place I can sit as the sun sets and listen to the sounds of night coming. Once night falls, star gaze and start up a real long conversation with God!
I feel more relaxed just imagining all that! It's wonderful! I think I can get through the rest of my day now!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Thursday, January 16, 2014
Good morning all!
For those who are currently on meds, continue taking! In some of my blogs I have talked about how I believe that they are not necessary to help your Depression. There are many who take them and have been on them for a long time. I am aware that by stoping, that may result in some serious consequences.
I do believe that there is hope for those who are on meds, that they can come to a point where they can gradually stop taking them.
It's a matter of self improvement. Because Depression is a sickness of the mind that affects the emotions, then the mind is where one should start. Yes, I know, Depression supposedly is a result of a chemical imbalance. If that is the case and the only reason that one has Depression in the first place, then the entire world, every single person would have Depression. No one is chemically balanced, no one.
So, just like any sickness that requires one to take measures to help themselves improve their health, Depression is the same way!
1. Change your thoughts
2. That will change your feelings,
3. And that will change your overall reaction to every and all situations!
I bet many are thinking, how can this help the most severe Depression? Well it will.
In the most grave of situations, you can change your thoughts about what is happening or what was just said. If you can do this, your typical reaction will be altered so that whatever it is, affect you differently.
A depressed person is highly sensitive to everything. The good and the bad. Our internal senses are heightened just like when you have a drink or two and all the sudden you feel like the music is better, everything is fun, you are usually even light on your feet and might get up to dance!
Can you imagine not feeling like you just got stabbed in the heart when someone insults you! Can you imagine you day not being ruined by the a$*hole who cut you in line at the coffee shop! Or not being affected by the co-worker who usually finds a way to get on your last nerve.
There are a million things that set us off and irritate our symptoms, but what if you can boost you "ME Reflex" so much that you Depression level starts to minimize to only being mild? Wouldn't that be the answers to your prayers?
We you can! Anyone can! I bet some of the most severe cases of Depression can be drastically reduced to mild! Once at that point, being taken off of meds will no longer be high risk! Before you know it, you can be free of drugs and free to live!
Truly
Dr. Nobody
For those who are currently on meds, continue taking! In some of my blogs I have talked about how I believe that they are not necessary to help your Depression. There are many who take them and have been on them for a long time. I am aware that by stoping, that may result in some serious consequences.
I do believe that there is hope for those who are on meds, that they can come to a point where they can gradually stop taking them.
It's a matter of self improvement. Because Depression is a sickness of the mind that affects the emotions, then the mind is where one should start. Yes, I know, Depression supposedly is a result of a chemical imbalance. If that is the case and the only reason that one has Depression in the first place, then the entire world, every single person would have Depression. No one is chemically balanced, no one.
So, just like any sickness that requires one to take measures to help themselves improve their health, Depression is the same way!
1. Change your thoughts
2. That will change your feelings,
3. And that will change your overall reaction to every and all situations!
I bet many are thinking, how can this help the most severe Depression? Well it will.
In the most grave of situations, you can change your thoughts about what is happening or what was just said. If you can do this, your typical reaction will be altered so that whatever it is, affect you differently.
A depressed person is highly sensitive to everything. The good and the bad. Our internal senses are heightened just like when you have a drink or two and all the sudden you feel like the music is better, everything is fun, you are usually even light on your feet and might get up to dance!
Can you imagine not feeling like you just got stabbed in the heart when someone insults you! Can you imagine you day not being ruined by the a$*hole who cut you in line at the coffee shop! Or not being affected by the co-worker who usually finds a way to get on your last nerve.
There are a million things that set us off and irritate our symptoms, but what if you can boost you "ME Reflex" so much that you Depression level starts to minimize to only being mild? Wouldn't that be the answers to your prayers?
We you can! Anyone can! I bet some of the most severe cases of Depression can be drastically reduced to mild! Once at that point, being taken off of meds will no longer be high risk! Before you know it, you can be free of drugs and free to live!
Truly
Dr. Nobody
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
The difference of Depression and feeling depressed.
I have seen all kinds of Depression and people who are depressed and ones who suffer from PTSD, which can bring depression.
I touched on the subject once before on one of the blogs, but for those are unaware or curious, I am going to break down the differences so that they can be easily recognized!
PTSD(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is when certain experiences one has gone through have made such a negative impact on a person that, after the fact(could be right way or from years ago) the are victim to stress that can also bring depression. More things are cause by PTSD, nightmares, anger, loss of control, rage, and some health issues as a result.
For the most part, PTSD has more familiarity with those who have returned form war. However, PTSD can be from anything to a horrible childhood, witnesses to crimes or victims of one, and any other abuse one suffers. You will never be the same after seeing or being the victim of a traumatic event like that.
In my personal opinion, though, for the ones who have suffered a traumatic past or event that is more than a year past, that should be called DCD(Delayed Coping Disorder). The reason for that, is because I have seen people(mostly male, males tend to be more guarded in showing emotions) who have had horrible childhoods and it's not until they are adults who are now going through a certain event or change that they are now having to deal with, that ends up bringing out old memories and feelings.
So because they are just now going through an emotional change brought on by stuff like, divorce, separation, a physical ailments that brings limitations, etc., they are mentally and emotionally vulnerable and weak. It seams as though the devil is attacking them and decides to open up old wounds to for the heck of it.
The problem in these cases is that a Dr. will tell them they have Depression and put them on meds! That is not the answer and they don't have Depression!
Being depressed. You are depressed if you just lost your job and now you are stressing about bills, food, supporting yourself or a family. You are depressed because you and your partner are having problems and you fear a separation or divorce. You are depressed because you just lost a loved one and the grief is intense. You are depressed because you are in debt a bazillion dollars because you absolutely can't live with out those shoes or the new tools. You are depressed because you are tired and bored or you life. You are depressed because you have made a long chain of bad decisions and are stuck with the consequences. You are depressed because you are lonely because you're not very social. You are depressed because you got in a spat with a sibling, parent or friend but you really do value the relationship. You are depressed because your ego has been hurt. You are depressed because you push yourself to your limits and you feel like it's still not enough. You are depressed because you are overweight but pizza, soda, and wings are your favorite.
Feeling depressed means you feel a little down in the dumps but it is only temporary and always can be fixed! You will find that your depressed feelings will subside as soon as you find a new job, fix you relationship or get a new one, adapt to the loss of the loved one, make a credit card payment so you can go shopping again, find something productive to do, stop screwing up, go out and say hi to people and be friendly, don't argue, learn how to be wrong once in a while, learn that no one is perfect and you are not the exception, start exercising so the pizza/soda/wings don't show!
Depression is something that you will have that will last forever. No quick fixes here. You can have everything the material world has to offer or you can have nothing at all and your Depression will be the same either way! It will appear and disappear at the wrong time or best time in your life. It doesn't care. You can have Depression and when someone tells you the sky is falling, you look at them and tell them "that's great!, nothing fazes you. The thought of losing all the above things I mentioned, has no importance to you. Where as the other person only feel depressed for having lost any of those things!
So here was the quick breakdown of the differences, I hope it was not confusing and I by no means have any intention of offending anyone. I'm a very honest person so I gave very honest explanations of which each is!
I would love some feedback, so feel free to express your thought on the matter!
Though for the day:
Horrible two car accident on major freeway: Survivor#1 "Awe man, I have no insurance, I'm screwed! Fines, car is totaled, how am I going to get to work? What am I going to do, my life is over!" Survivor#2 "What? I didn't die!"
....That's Depression!
Always
Dr. Nobody
I have seen all kinds of Depression and people who are depressed and ones who suffer from PTSD, which can bring depression.
I touched on the subject once before on one of the blogs, but for those are unaware or curious, I am going to break down the differences so that they can be easily recognized!
PTSD(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is when certain experiences one has gone through have made such a negative impact on a person that, after the fact(could be right way or from years ago) the are victim to stress that can also bring depression. More things are cause by PTSD, nightmares, anger, loss of control, rage, and some health issues as a result.
For the most part, PTSD has more familiarity with those who have returned form war. However, PTSD can be from anything to a horrible childhood, witnesses to crimes or victims of one, and any other abuse one suffers. You will never be the same after seeing or being the victim of a traumatic event like that.
In my personal opinion, though, for the ones who have suffered a traumatic past or event that is more than a year past, that should be called DCD(Delayed Coping Disorder). The reason for that, is because I have seen people(mostly male, males tend to be more guarded in showing emotions) who have had horrible childhoods and it's not until they are adults who are now going through a certain event or change that they are now having to deal with, that ends up bringing out old memories and feelings.
So because they are just now going through an emotional change brought on by stuff like, divorce, separation, a physical ailments that brings limitations, etc., they are mentally and emotionally vulnerable and weak. It seams as though the devil is attacking them and decides to open up old wounds to for the heck of it.
The problem in these cases is that a Dr. will tell them they have Depression and put them on meds! That is not the answer and they don't have Depression!
Being depressed. You are depressed if you just lost your job and now you are stressing about bills, food, supporting yourself or a family. You are depressed because you and your partner are having problems and you fear a separation or divorce. You are depressed because you just lost a loved one and the grief is intense. You are depressed because you are in debt a bazillion dollars because you absolutely can't live with out those shoes or the new tools. You are depressed because you are tired and bored or you life. You are depressed because you have made a long chain of bad decisions and are stuck with the consequences. You are depressed because you are lonely because you're not very social. You are depressed because you got in a spat with a sibling, parent or friend but you really do value the relationship. You are depressed because your ego has been hurt. You are depressed because you push yourself to your limits and you feel like it's still not enough. You are depressed because you are overweight but pizza, soda, and wings are your favorite.
Feeling depressed means you feel a little down in the dumps but it is only temporary and always can be fixed! You will find that your depressed feelings will subside as soon as you find a new job, fix you relationship or get a new one, adapt to the loss of the loved one, make a credit card payment so you can go shopping again, find something productive to do, stop screwing up, go out and say hi to people and be friendly, don't argue, learn how to be wrong once in a while, learn that no one is perfect and you are not the exception, start exercising so the pizza/soda/wings don't show!
Depression is something that you will have that will last forever. No quick fixes here. You can have everything the material world has to offer or you can have nothing at all and your Depression will be the same either way! It will appear and disappear at the wrong time or best time in your life. It doesn't care. You can have Depression and when someone tells you the sky is falling, you look at them and tell them "that's great!, nothing fazes you. The thought of losing all the above things I mentioned, has no importance to you. Where as the other person only feel depressed for having lost any of those things!
So here was the quick breakdown of the differences, I hope it was not confusing and I by no means have any intention of offending anyone. I'm a very honest person so I gave very honest explanations of which each is!
I would love some feedback, so feel free to express your thought on the matter!
Though for the day:
Horrible two car accident on major freeway: Survivor#1 "Awe man, I have no insurance, I'm screwed! Fines, car is totaled, how am I going to get to work? What am I going to do, my life is over!" Survivor#2 "What? I didn't die!"
....That's Depression!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Monday, January 13, 2014
Dwelling in the darkness.
You know, no matter how many years I have put into practice the concepts that have proven to improve my life, I still have those days. It's part of the sickness, I know, but todays blog is just about how it's ok to loose it! My best is all I can do for whatever condition I'm in at that moment.
If I have a horrible cold and at the same time am in a "low" or just one off day, I have to realize that the quality of my best is not going to be at the same level as when I am not sick but still in a "low".
All this comes to mind because this weekend I was visiting family, but the location was the same location of where I once lived and just happened to have the best year of my life! Nothing extra special happened that year, it was just a year that I don't recall having not one "low". I went one whole year getting to have a break from Depression! Sure, we had some financial difficulties and other typical hardships that life brings, but it was the happiest year I can recall.
The place is absolutely beautiful and peaceful. So peaceful that deer, javalina, and quails ran around freely. There's a creek nearby that made for perfect picnics and swimming. The house was small yet inviting. Being on a mesa, the sunsets were breath taking! Most importantly, the family unit was as strong as it had ever been!
I have been in a "low" recently and am not quite out of it yet. Thanks to the changes I have made to my way of thinking, my "lows" are only half as severe as they used to be. I still withdraw myself from family and public places. I prefer to stay indoors, and am very emotionally sensitive to the smallest things. I no longer am suicidal, or hate myself.
Being in a "low" already and then going back to this place that, although has wonderful memories, got me all choked up and on the verge of tears. I had to use every bit of strength I had to hold it in while I was there. Once I got home, it was another story!
I just dwelled on how things used to be and asking why couldn't everything be like it was then. I felt mad at the present for not being like the past. Only at moments like these, do I truly hate change. The more I dwelled on how things have changed, the darker my heart felt with anger and hate.
I knew it would pass but having to be reminded how things will never be again, was what really broke my heart. It's a place I will avoid going to as best I can in order to avoid all the negative feelings that it brought. Even though memories lived there were happy ones, it's the comparison of what used to be and what most likely will never be, that would keep a person away instead of wanting to be there. I have family there and although I enjoy their company, being in a "low" and having this unexpected reaction to going there, I cannot go again any time soon. Even out of the "low", going might provoke another negative reaction and could be the reason for the start of another "low".
So for the abnormally un-sick people, if you know of a friend or family member who stays away, a reason like this might be why! I hope you are understanding and supportive of your depressed one!
Thought for the day:
The memory is cherished, it's the fact that things couldn't remain as such, that break the heart!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
You know, no matter how many years I have put into practice the concepts that have proven to improve my life, I still have those days. It's part of the sickness, I know, but todays blog is just about how it's ok to loose it! My best is all I can do for whatever condition I'm in at that moment.
If I have a horrible cold and at the same time am in a "low" or just one off day, I have to realize that the quality of my best is not going to be at the same level as when I am not sick but still in a "low".
All this comes to mind because this weekend I was visiting family, but the location was the same location of where I once lived and just happened to have the best year of my life! Nothing extra special happened that year, it was just a year that I don't recall having not one "low". I went one whole year getting to have a break from Depression! Sure, we had some financial difficulties and other typical hardships that life brings, but it was the happiest year I can recall.
The place is absolutely beautiful and peaceful. So peaceful that deer, javalina, and quails ran around freely. There's a creek nearby that made for perfect picnics and swimming. The house was small yet inviting. Being on a mesa, the sunsets were breath taking! Most importantly, the family unit was as strong as it had ever been!
I have been in a "low" recently and am not quite out of it yet. Thanks to the changes I have made to my way of thinking, my "lows" are only half as severe as they used to be. I still withdraw myself from family and public places. I prefer to stay indoors, and am very emotionally sensitive to the smallest things. I no longer am suicidal, or hate myself.
Being in a "low" already and then going back to this place that, although has wonderful memories, got me all choked up and on the verge of tears. I had to use every bit of strength I had to hold it in while I was there. Once I got home, it was another story!
I just dwelled on how things used to be and asking why couldn't everything be like it was then. I felt mad at the present for not being like the past. Only at moments like these, do I truly hate change. The more I dwelled on how things have changed, the darker my heart felt with anger and hate.
I knew it would pass but having to be reminded how things will never be again, was what really broke my heart. It's a place I will avoid going to as best I can in order to avoid all the negative feelings that it brought. Even though memories lived there were happy ones, it's the comparison of what used to be and what most likely will never be, that would keep a person away instead of wanting to be there. I have family there and although I enjoy their company, being in a "low" and having this unexpected reaction to going there, I cannot go again any time soon. Even out of the "low", going might provoke another negative reaction and could be the reason for the start of another "low".
So for the abnormally un-sick people, if you know of a friend or family member who stays away, a reason like this might be why! I hope you are understanding and supportive of your depressed one!
Thought for the day:
The memory is cherished, it's the fact that things couldn't remain as such, that break the heart!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
Friday, January 10, 2014
The truth will set you free!
Ever heard that before? If you have you probably recognize it from a scripture. And the words have more than just one way to be applied to your life!
For me those words have been words to live by, not only in the Biblical sense, but also in everyday life and concerning anyone in my life. From always telling the truth in a relationship and being honest about my feelings, to saying "yes" when asked if your butt looks big in those pants! Ask me, because I will tell you the truth!
I am the one to come to if you want an honest opinion. If you feel like others are trying not to hurt your feelings and you have a feeling they are sugar coating something, ask me, you'll get the truth from me.
I have learned that by sugar coating stuff, you only hurt the person by not being honest. That goes for absolutely everything and anything. Yes the truth hurts but like I stated at the beginning, it will set you free too!
In one day, there are many ways to adopt this new value. Not just to people you see throughout a day but mostly to yourself. Like any values that one might have, it's not just something you wake up one morning and say " I think I'll ware truthfulness today!"
No, it is something that you have to practice and learn. The more you put this value into affect, the more it will just become a way of being for you. It will be natural for you to be truthful. When you so master it, you and others will see such a difference!
Being truthful with yourself is most important. This honesty will keep you in check and keep you real and genuine.
As a depressed person, we tell ourselves lies all the time. We even believe the lies that others tell us. Most of the time we are in denial of how bad our "lows" really are, or how much help we really need. Yet if we learned how to be truthful to ourselves, seeking proper help and realizing our weakness and our strengths, we can find true recovery!
Tell yourself the truth. No more lies, no more excuses...just the truth.
Don't ever be ashamed of how you feel or what you think. The moment you have to re-think how you feel or what your first thought was, it is no longer your true feeling or thoughts.
Say what you mean how you mean it, don't even change the words. Say the first words that came to your mind and blurt it out. Words are what we use to communicate, so use them, even if they are blunt! Don't be sorry for how you feel or how what you say might offend someone else.
Don't be truthful when you are in the middle of an argument or when someone else is attacking you. Only be truthful when it comes to your feeling. You have every right to feel however you want, your feelings are yours not anyone else's'.
In a heated argument, we tend to say things that are only true at that moment, we after it's said and done it's not how we truly feel. It's like when kids are fighting over a toy or something and they will say stuff like " Well you're not my friend anymore", or " I hate you", it's only true for that moment that they are mad, but it's not how they really feel when the situation is normal!
Thought for the day:
Make truth be your top value because if the truth sets you free, then lies and dishonesty have you wrapped in a straight jacket!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Ever heard that before? If you have you probably recognize it from a scripture. And the words have more than just one way to be applied to your life!
For me those words have been words to live by, not only in the Biblical sense, but also in everyday life and concerning anyone in my life. From always telling the truth in a relationship and being honest about my feelings, to saying "yes" when asked if your butt looks big in those pants! Ask me, because I will tell you the truth!
I am the one to come to if you want an honest opinion. If you feel like others are trying not to hurt your feelings and you have a feeling they are sugar coating something, ask me, you'll get the truth from me.
I have learned that by sugar coating stuff, you only hurt the person by not being honest. That goes for absolutely everything and anything. Yes the truth hurts but like I stated at the beginning, it will set you free too!
In one day, there are many ways to adopt this new value. Not just to people you see throughout a day but mostly to yourself. Like any values that one might have, it's not just something you wake up one morning and say " I think I'll ware truthfulness today!"
No, it is something that you have to practice and learn. The more you put this value into affect, the more it will just become a way of being for you. It will be natural for you to be truthful. When you so master it, you and others will see such a difference!
Being truthful with yourself is most important. This honesty will keep you in check and keep you real and genuine.
As a depressed person, we tell ourselves lies all the time. We even believe the lies that others tell us. Most of the time we are in denial of how bad our "lows" really are, or how much help we really need. Yet if we learned how to be truthful to ourselves, seeking proper help and realizing our weakness and our strengths, we can find true recovery!
Tell yourself the truth. No more lies, no more excuses...just the truth.
Don't ever be ashamed of how you feel or what you think. The moment you have to re-think how you feel or what your first thought was, it is no longer your true feeling or thoughts.
Say what you mean how you mean it, don't even change the words. Say the first words that came to your mind and blurt it out. Words are what we use to communicate, so use them, even if they are blunt! Don't be sorry for how you feel or how what you say might offend someone else.
Don't be truthful when you are in the middle of an argument or when someone else is attacking you. Only be truthful when it comes to your feeling. You have every right to feel however you want, your feelings are yours not anyone else's'.
In a heated argument, we tend to say things that are only true at that moment, we after it's said and done it's not how we truly feel. It's like when kids are fighting over a toy or something and they will say stuff like " Well you're not my friend anymore", or " I hate you", it's only true for that moment that they are mad, but it's not how they really feel when the situation is normal!
Thought for the day:
Make truth be your top value because if the truth sets you free, then lies and dishonesty have you wrapped in a straight jacket!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Thursday, January 9, 2014
Depression and control.
If you have depression or are currently depressed brought on by a life changing event, you need to know that you can control it!
Depression is like being stuck driving a big huge ugly dump truck( no, I'm not dogging garbage truck drivers, this is just an illustration!), it's all you have and even though we depressed folk are hauling a ton of garbage, we still have control of what garbage we pick up and when we dump it!
Because we are Depressed, we will be carrying around all this negativity, but you get to dump it out whenever you see fit. You do not have to carry it or deal with the stench of darkness with you forever.
From what I have seen being in this sickness, is that we the sufferers, don't even know that we have the power to conquer it! We are diagnosed, most of the time given drugs, told we have to seek help by way of therapy or councilors/life-coaches/psychologist and so on.
How many of us have been told by the one diagnosing us, what measures we can take to help ourselves?
It's stupid really! It actually pisses me off too!
More than half the battle of depression can be won just by our very own victories over ourselves. The drugs only cover up the problems like cheap makeup on a hooker.
Sounds bad right! Well it is! Our sickness is not being taken care of. Nothing is being done to remedy the root causes of our sickness. It seems like the world cares more about getting points for writing Rx's then for actually putting all those years of school to some real work!
Well guess what? You don't need them anyway!
All you need is some insight, inner-strength, and for a really bad day, maybe a punching bag!
I can't stress enough, how important it is for us that are have Depression, to do absolutely everything possible to lesson the symptoms that we have. When you have tried every mental and emotional way to improve your sickness, the need for drugs or trips to a "mental" hospital we be reduced by so much, it would be astonishing!
Do you know how many people will not commit suicide because they are better able to control their minds and feeling in such a way that they want to live just one more day? Then that one day will come and then they will want to live just one more day, and that mentality will go in a circle. Before they even realize it, they will be have so much control over their Depression that the feeling of death will leave them!
The road to happiness is long and hard but we will want to walk it instead of turning to the dead end(literally). It's just that we were never told that we can conquer this. Now that we know we can and that we have the power to do so, we can start sharpening our tools and our swords to fight this Depression one on one!
We will win! Those who have lost their battle to Depression had no tools or sword so they got lost in the darkness. Consumed by the loneliness and bitter cold. Yet we are here, and now we are aware of what we do to have the victory of it! Depression only wins when we don't put up a fight!
My Depression has kicked my butt, but I'm telling you that getting up right after falling, I've proven that it's no match for me! As long as keep up the fight and not give up, I will win each round!
It knocks me down, the bell rings, I have a break to recover from the blows...the bell rings again, and I knock the son of a bleep out!!!
Depression is your enemy, treat it like so!
Get up, get out of bed or off the couch and take control. Cry and wallow in self pity after you win the fight! Make up excuses after you're done beating the crap out of Depression. Show it that you can't be broken! Depression wants to bring you down and keep you there, it wants you to feel alone, it wants you to have nothing.
Your off days or "lows" is just you in the corner when the bell rings, hurry up and recover, find that inner strength and be ready for the bell to ring again! It's knock out time!
Though for the day:
Depression is not your friend, don't let it in. Draw a line and push it outside it. The moment you give in, you'll find yourself losing that round, don't give in!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
If you have depression or are currently depressed brought on by a life changing event, you need to know that you can control it!
Depression is like being stuck driving a big huge ugly dump truck( no, I'm not dogging garbage truck drivers, this is just an illustration!), it's all you have and even though we depressed folk are hauling a ton of garbage, we still have control of what garbage we pick up and when we dump it!
Because we are Depressed, we will be carrying around all this negativity, but you get to dump it out whenever you see fit. You do not have to carry it or deal with the stench of darkness with you forever.
From what I have seen being in this sickness, is that we the sufferers, don't even know that we have the power to conquer it! We are diagnosed, most of the time given drugs, told we have to seek help by way of therapy or councilors/life-coaches/psychologist and so on.
How many of us have been told by the one diagnosing us, what measures we can take to help ourselves?
It's stupid really! It actually pisses me off too!
More than half the battle of depression can be won just by our very own victories over ourselves. The drugs only cover up the problems like cheap makeup on a hooker.
Sounds bad right! Well it is! Our sickness is not being taken care of. Nothing is being done to remedy the root causes of our sickness. It seems like the world cares more about getting points for writing Rx's then for actually putting all those years of school to some real work!
Well guess what? You don't need them anyway!
All you need is some insight, inner-strength, and for a really bad day, maybe a punching bag!
I can't stress enough, how important it is for us that are have Depression, to do absolutely everything possible to lesson the symptoms that we have. When you have tried every mental and emotional way to improve your sickness, the need for drugs or trips to a "mental" hospital we be reduced by so much, it would be astonishing!
Do you know how many people will not commit suicide because they are better able to control their minds and feeling in such a way that they want to live just one more day? Then that one day will come and then they will want to live just one more day, and that mentality will go in a circle. Before they even realize it, they will be have so much control over their Depression that the feeling of death will leave them!
The road to happiness is long and hard but we will want to walk it instead of turning to the dead end(literally). It's just that we were never told that we can conquer this. Now that we know we can and that we have the power to do so, we can start sharpening our tools and our swords to fight this Depression one on one!
We will win! Those who have lost their battle to Depression had no tools or sword so they got lost in the darkness. Consumed by the loneliness and bitter cold. Yet we are here, and now we are aware of what we do to have the victory of it! Depression only wins when we don't put up a fight!
My Depression has kicked my butt, but I'm telling you that getting up right after falling, I've proven that it's no match for me! As long as keep up the fight and not give up, I will win each round!
It knocks me down, the bell rings, I have a break to recover from the blows...the bell rings again, and I knock the son of a bleep out!!!
Depression is your enemy, treat it like so!
Get up, get out of bed or off the couch and take control. Cry and wallow in self pity after you win the fight! Make up excuses after you're done beating the crap out of Depression. Show it that you can't be broken! Depression wants to bring you down and keep you there, it wants you to feel alone, it wants you to have nothing.
Your off days or "lows" is just you in the corner when the bell rings, hurry up and recover, find that inner strength and be ready for the bell to ring again! It's knock out time!
Though for the day:
Depression is not your friend, don't let it in. Draw a line and push it outside it. The moment you give in, you'll find yourself losing that round, don't give in!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
Tuesday, January 7, 2014
Depression and being a parent.
My kids don't deserve to have to see and feel the effects of Depression, but I had kids so what am I going to do!
Like any parent I would love to be all happy-go-lucky for them all the time, but I can only be that sometimes and not for very long. I have seen though, how if I focus on what I can't do for them the more I'm not going to be able to do for them.
I have to focus on what I can do for them. Like I've said in past posts, I have to take advantage of my good days and make them count!
I have been in such "lows" that I stay in bed and do nothing, or lay on the couch just wanting quiet. My kids will ask when we are going to do something, want to leave and go to the park. Being in that "low", the last thing I want to do is be in public.
It's like I feel ashamed of who I am. I only feel that way when I'm in a "low", but still, I feel like people will find me out! I look sick, dark circles under my eyes, pale skin because I rarely ever get any sun. Not only that but there are all kinds of people who are perfectly happy and smiling, I'd be the one parent there with no emotion on my face. Just the thought of that is depressing!
So I understand how hard it is to interact and distract your children while suffering from Depression.
My children, thankfully, understand when I'm not ok. In fact they are quite caring to my needs! If I'm crying, for whatever reason, they will come to me and hug me and tell me they love me. They of course will ask what is wrong and I tell them that I'm sick right now, they say ok and go find themselves a distraction. Oh how I love them!
I take a lot of bathes, It's very calming for me. One of my kids usually will come and sit by the tub to keep me company. Surprisingly, this time is perfect for bonding because I'm in a very relaxed stress-free state of mind. Anyhow, not too long ago, she was asking why I had been crying earlier. I told her that I'm sick again and that's just what happen with this sickness. I told her that is why I came to take a bath, to feel better. Her response, " But why don't you use that lotion you have...it says Stress Relief?" It was some lotion form Bath & Body Works that was an aroma therapy lotion! Very cute moment.
It's moments like that, that make being a parent while having Depression, not so bad!
The second most valuable thing in this world that has given a reason to live, are my kids. Yes, at times I have not been the best parent because of the lack of attention and even a bit of love I am not always able to give while in a "low", but I forgive myself because I know that I have done the best that I know how and that is all that one can do. You can't do what you don't know!
Now I'm not saying my kids are neglected by any means, I'm just saying that when I am in a "low" there are lots of moments that I can recall when I could have given them another hug, or said I love them, or been a little more caring when they got a boo boo!
I hate who I am on my off days. Seriously! It's like we have a double personality with Depression. I have seen one of my kids fall and scrape their knee, yet my response to them is so ridiculously slow that I disgust myself for how cold I can be. No emotion at times. It is truly a very sad feeling. Yet, any other day, my child falls and... Tun tun tun! Super Parent to the rescue!!!
So all I can do is keep my awareness that way when my day is off and my children need me, I might be in a daze but still do my best to tune into them. I also will give them projects to do when I'm in a low, so that they have something to do. Seeking support from friends and family is a very good idea too. Ask them to take the kids out for a while. Not only so they don't have to be around the dark atmosphere but also so you don't risk taking out any of your frustrations on them.
Personally I'll get snappy and impatient at times. I do ask them for forgiveness when I have gotten mad at them when I know it's just me. Great thing is, kids happily accept apologies then turn and go find something fun to do!
Thought for the day:
The joys of parenting are great, and although we may be sick at times, children are naturally happy and are more than willing to share that happiness!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
Monday, January 6, 2014
How to cope when you had no control over what happened.
First you need to still realize that you need to use your ME Reflex(mental & emotional) for each and every situation in your life.
You need to do this even more so when you had no control over what has happened. Doing this will help you to not only not take things personally but it will also help you not have to deal with so much unneeded drama.
So if someone says something to you that is very hurtful, you need to dismiss what they are saying almost as soon as the words are coming out of their mouths. As they are talking, tune out what they are saying and start telling yourself that what they are doing is mean, cruel, and immature. Tell yourself as they are still talking, that you don't need their negativity in your life. You don't have time for it and you refuse to make time for it.
You have every right to say nothing. Stand there thinking what I just told you to and as soon as you are done, look that awful person in the face and tell them you don't have time for their crap. Turn and walk away.
If you stay in an attempt to try to defend yourself, you will only be feeding the fire and letting that person get the best of you.
You don't need to justify yourself or prove anybody wrong. You know who you are and what you are worth. If they can't see that and have the need to insult you, they do not deserve to have you in their lives.
As soon as you walk away go and distract yourself with something positive. Whatever makes you happy. As hard as it seems to do this, you will find that finding a distraction immediately will be just what you needed to get over the situation and it will also make the "situation" turn to just a small glitch in your day!
Remember that things are only as important as we make them. Everything that is negative, needs to mean nothing. Positive things are everything because the memory of those positive things is what provides one with hope, inspiration and happiness!
I have learned to do this over the years and because of it I have been able to free myself from so much drama and negativity. Having depression, the chances of an insult really doing some damage is pretty high, so using this ME Reflex has helped me so much. I have started to become immune to the evil in this world.
Practice dismissing a person as they are speaking to you, if it is even the slightest bit negative, and you will start gaining the power that person is loosing!
Thought for the day:
When someone does or says something in an attempt to hurt you, it is just them loosing control, take that control that they are loosing and use it to become the wiser!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
Spirituality and Depression
You know, go back a few decades and we will see how much more pleasant the world was. Why have things changed to much? Granted, some of those changes have been for the better, like medical and technology advances that have not only proven to enhance our lives but even at time save them. As far as the other changes I'm talking about, moral, values, parenting and spirituality, the change for these things has made a turn for the worse!
People are rude, mean, ignorant, selfish and unthankful. It's sickens me to think of how we have come to think that it is ok to behave and live like this.
All the things I mentioned above, stem from one key missing factor. Spirituality.
We have left God. Neglected our relationship with Him. In doing so, we have forgotten what to be thankful for, what love really means and so many other things that we once new or that even came naturally to us. We are so far away from Him that some of us even blame Him for the crap we are living!
He has given us life, yet we see no value in it and us afflicted with Depression even more so. He has offered us a close and personal relationship with Him, Our Creator, yet we find no importance in it. He has given us the greatest tool ever in order to help us survive this wicked world, but how many of us even take to heart what the Bible has to say?
It is so simple, the answer to finding our way through the fog that clouds our path to happiness, get your spirituality back and in no time will you not only feel better but those around you will even be able to feel the love and light that fills your person!
Did you know that the Bible says that God wants you to be close to Him? James 4:8 (He needs to be your best friend)
Did you know that we should have so much love for our neighbors that we should even pray for our enemies? Matthew 5:44 (How much hate could be eliminated if only we would listen)
Did you know having faith will save us? Romans 1:17 (I don't know about you but I want to live!)
Did you know that He has given us a list that will improve our personalities? Galatians 5:22 (Are you telling me people wouldn't be a@#holes anymore!!!!)
Those are just a couple of examples of why this world is so mean and ugly, because we are not heeding the advice! My favorite scripture that God put in there for me is:
Psalms 34:18 "God is close to the brokenhearted; He saves those who are crushed in spirit."
I found this scripture while crying one day. I felt so alone, cold and lost. The hope for a brighter tomorrow was absent. I was so deeply sadden that if a train was passing, I would've stood in front of it. There was no train and I was quite far from one so I picked up the Bible instead and told myself that there had to be something helpful in it. Low and behold...I opened it to that very scripture!
I was in such disbelief that I would just happen to find it that I knew that He was helping me! Sure boosted my faith too. To imagine that God cares so much about us that He put these words out there for us so we would know how much He loves us!!!
Read it again. He is close us. He saves us. How would we know that though, if we don't read is Word? I have taken this scripture to heat, and I can't tell you how many times when I'm in a "low" especially, that these words are what ends up pulling me out of that hole! Knowing that He is close to me means that I am not alone. He is saving me from the dark madness that engulfs our lives. I put faith and these words and they have yet to fail me.
The more you embrace you spirituality, the more knowledge and insight you will have over your opponent...Depression.
It's a massive battle of the mind and heart, prepare your spirituality and strengthen it with some of those scriptures above, those are the tools that God has given us to fight with. He guarantees they will work and we can be sure they will because He cannot lie! Titus 1:2
I, for one, know for a fact that I would have committed suicide years ago as a teen, had it not been for having God in my life. It's not easy coping with the loneliness and darkness of Depression, but having Him in your live will be what eventually saves you!
Thought for the day:
God knows exactly how we feel having to suffer of Depression...Psalms 34:18
Always
Dr. Nobody
You know, go back a few decades and we will see how much more pleasant the world was. Why have things changed to much? Granted, some of those changes have been for the better, like medical and technology advances that have not only proven to enhance our lives but even at time save them. As far as the other changes I'm talking about, moral, values, parenting and spirituality, the change for these things has made a turn for the worse!
People are rude, mean, ignorant, selfish and unthankful. It's sickens me to think of how we have come to think that it is ok to behave and live like this.
All the things I mentioned above, stem from one key missing factor. Spirituality.
We have left God. Neglected our relationship with Him. In doing so, we have forgotten what to be thankful for, what love really means and so many other things that we once new or that even came naturally to us. We are so far away from Him that some of us even blame Him for the crap we are living!
He has given us life, yet we see no value in it and us afflicted with Depression even more so. He has offered us a close and personal relationship with Him, Our Creator, yet we find no importance in it. He has given us the greatest tool ever in order to help us survive this wicked world, but how many of us even take to heart what the Bible has to say?
It is so simple, the answer to finding our way through the fog that clouds our path to happiness, get your spirituality back and in no time will you not only feel better but those around you will even be able to feel the love and light that fills your person!
Did you know that the Bible says that God wants you to be close to Him? James 4:8 (He needs to be your best friend)
Did you know that we should have so much love for our neighbors that we should even pray for our enemies? Matthew 5:44 (How much hate could be eliminated if only we would listen)
Did you know having faith will save us? Romans 1:17 (I don't know about you but I want to live!)
Did you know that He has given us a list that will improve our personalities? Galatians 5:22 (Are you telling me people wouldn't be a@#holes anymore!!!!)
Those are just a couple of examples of why this world is so mean and ugly, because we are not heeding the advice! My favorite scripture that God put in there for me is:
Psalms 34:18 "God is close to the brokenhearted; He saves those who are crushed in spirit."
I found this scripture while crying one day. I felt so alone, cold and lost. The hope for a brighter tomorrow was absent. I was so deeply sadden that if a train was passing, I would've stood in front of it. There was no train and I was quite far from one so I picked up the Bible instead and told myself that there had to be something helpful in it. Low and behold...I opened it to that very scripture!
I was in such disbelief that I would just happen to find it that I knew that He was helping me! Sure boosted my faith too. To imagine that God cares so much about us that He put these words out there for us so we would know how much He loves us!!!
Read it again. He is close us. He saves us. How would we know that though, if we don't read is Word? I have taken this scripture to heat, and I can't tell you how many times when I'm in a "low" especially, that these words are what ends up pulling me out of that hole! Knowing that He is close to me means that I am not alone. He is saving me from the dark madness that engulfs our lives. I put faith and these words and they have yet to fail me.
The more you embrace you spirituality, the more knowledge and insight you will have over your opponent...Depression.
It's a massive battle of the mind and heart, prepare your spirituality and strengthen it with some of those scriptures above, those are the tools that God has given us to fight with. He guarantees they will work and we can be sure they will because He cannot lie! Titus 1:2
I, for one, know for a fact that I would have committed suicide years ago as a teen, had it not been for having God in my life. It's not easy coping with the loneliness and darkness of Depression, but having Him in your live will be what eventually saves you!
Thought for the day:
God knows exactly how we feel having to suffer of Depression...Psalms 34:18
Always
Dr. Nobody
Friday, January 3, 2014
How to forgive yourself.
This is so important for your self-esteem. By you not forgiving yourself for something, you are punishing yourself over and over again. You are also not giving yourself a chance to redeem itself.
To error is human, we are not perfect. The mistakes we make is what we learn from. If no one ever made a mistake we would all be hot heads and we would have no value for anything at all.
When a person makes a mistake, they learn how not to do something. Look for a solution to correct it and move on. If the person is particularly savey, they will find various solutions in order to find the most efficient one.
So see your mistakes as opportunities for growth, not for thinking you are worth less.
You would only be an idiot if you kept making the same mistakes repeatedly with no signs of improvement or no signs of repenting if it is a more serious matter.
If God is so ready and willing to forgive you, then there is no excuse for you not forgiving yourself.
Psalms 103:9-12
"He will not always find fault, Nor will he stay resentful forever. He has not dealt with us according to our sins,Nor has he repaid us what our errors deserve. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So great is his loyal love toward those who fear him. As far off as the sunrise is from the sunset, So far off from us he has put our transgressions"
Ask God to forgive you for whatever you have done, no matter how big or small. Let him know exactly how you feel and what you have learned from the whole thing.
Once you have done this, it will be a lot easier to start forgiving yourself once you know and understand that God forgives you.
And remember that no one has the right to keep account of your mistakes, if one does, you need to throw them out of your life because as the scripture above states...He doesn't even hold things against you, so no human should!
Thought for the day:
If you are not forgiving yourself for mistakes you've made, you are also not giving yourself a chance to learn and grow.
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
Thursday, January 2, 2014
Awareness.
The awareness I am talking about is about yourself. If you have Depression, you need to be aware of how you are thinking and feeling at all times. learning to be in tune with yourself is what is the beginning of change. Positive change. Let me explain.
If you can become aware of how you think you can change that to be positive so that your reaction(which would be how you feel, you emotional reaction), you can change how something will affect you in the first place. You can avoid a negative reaction all together!
Awareness is like a little alarm that you would get. Turn on your awareness button and every time something is about to affect you, because you were warned, you can choose the outcome of how you will react. It's a reflex. Instead of the reflexes you are used to that would be like catching a glass that was about to fall...you can use your mental reflex and catch yourself before you fall into a "low".
This is not that easy to do but once you learn how to be aware, you will avoid so many "lows" and start feeling better more often and for longer periods of time.
Having Depression in this world gets even harder with each passing year. The cruelty of this world is so great that everywhere we turn that are things that can set us off.
I try not to watch the news, a sad story will ruin my whole mindset for the day. My whole mood changes and no matter how hard I try to occupy myself with work or just everyday things, that news report will be lingering in the back of my head all day.
I purposely won't make food the way my Grandfather taught me because I get all emotional once the smells hit my nose. Smells that, although wonderful memories, bring me to tears and mourning all over again.
I won't do crafts if I'm not feeing inspired. If I try I will end up getting frustrated with myself and start beating up my self-esteem. It's better to wait until that inspiration fills me to the top so that when I do do something, it will come out right. I'll be proud of my work and ready to show it off!
These are just my personal quirks that I have learned to be ware of in order to avoid having a bad day.
Now of course there will be things that happen in your day that you will have no control over, but as for the things that you can control, you alone are responsible for the outcome of those days!
Thought for the day:
Awareness is your mental reflex, catch yourself before you fall!
Always
Dr. Nobody
To live or not to live?
LIVE. Live because there are more reasons to live than to die!
I know it might seem like you can find more reason to die but you are wrong. Beside the apparent reasons to live, you still haven't even found all the other reasons to live yet! Yes, they are out there waiting to be found by you.
Another good one you didn't know about is that I want to be your friend! I'm a reason! I want to get to know you! Let's be friends! Not only do I know what you are going through but I'm actually quite the goof-ball....makes for good times!!
So don't do it. Write me first. Give me a chance to know who you are because I care about you. I also have so many things I want to share with you. Give me a chance to be your friend and give you all the gifts I have for you, then, if you want to do whatever you want to do....go ahead. Just let me in your life first!
Thought for the day:
L.I.V.E = Learn new things!, Inspire someone!, Value-find it in everything you do to give it meaning!, & Experience the power life can give!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
LIVE. Live because there are more reasons to live than to die!
I know it might seem like you can find more reason to die but you are wrong. Beside the apparent reasons to live, you still haven't even found all the other reasons to live yet! Yes, they are out there waiting to be found by you.
Another good one you didn't know about is that I want to be your friend! I'm a reason! I want to get to know you! Let's be friends! Not only do I know what you are going through but I'm actually quite the goof-ball....makes for good times!!
So don't do it. Write me first. Give me a chance to know who you are because I care about you. I also have so many things I want to share with you. Give me a chance to be your friend and give you all the gifts I have for you, then, if you want to do whatever you want to do....go ahead. Just let me in your life first!
Thought for the day:
L.I.V.E = Learn new things!, Inspire someone!, Value-find it in everything you do to give it meaning!, & Experience the power life can give!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
Depression and relationships.
This is a hard one, even for me.
Medically speaking, a depressed person should not be looking to start a new romantic relationship. Professionally speaking, it is unhealthy for us because we are so unstable. Our ability to make sensible decisions is corrupted by the Depression that invades us.
However, it would be harsh to say that because one is depressed we don't get to experience love. That would be unfair.
For about love, the Bible says that it "It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
I will say this though, even a depressed person has the right to love, just be careful that the relationship improves your life not impedes it!
For a depressed person, a bad relationship hurts even more. Any betrayal on the other end will be magnified tenfold. Any betrayal on our own part most likely will lead in even more self-esteem issues than we already have!
For a teen who is depressed, I don't recommend relationships like that. For adults I recommend that they choose a healthy relationship that would be supportive of the special attention that Depression requires.
I don't think that you should be doomed to a life of solitude just because you suffer from depression. Sometimes God will just happen to send you that special someone who turns out to be just what you needed, so don't shut the door on that possibility!
Thought for the day:
Love brings light to any life, but a broken heart can be deadly.
Always
Dr. Nobody
This is a hard one, even for me.
Medically speaking, a depressed person should not be looking to start a new romantic relationship. Professionally speaking, it is unhealthy for us because we are so unstable. Our ability to make sensible decisions is corrupted by the Depression that invades us.
However, it would be harsh to say that because one is depressed we don't get to experience love. That would be unfair.
For about love, the Bible says that it "It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
I will say this though, even a depressed person has the right to love, just be careful that the relationship improves your life not impedes it!
For a depressed person, a bad relationship hurts even more. Any betrayal on the other end will be magnified tenfold. Any betrayal on our own part most likely will lead in even more self-esteem issues than we already have!
For a teen who is depressed, I don't recommend relationships like that. For adults I recommend that they choose a healthy relationship that would be supportive of the special attention that Depression requires.
I don't think that you should be doomed to a life of solitude just because you suffer from depression. Sometimes God will just happen to send you that special someone who turns out to be just what you needed, so don't shut the door on that possibility!
Thought for the day:
Love brings light to any life, but a broken heart can be deadly.
Always
Dr. Nobody
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