Why hello there beautiful people!!
I was just talking to someone about how us depressed people start to withdraw from others when we are in one of our lows. I think it is interesting how others just expect us to snap out of it!
Personally when I'm not feeling it, I just don't do it. Whether it's appearing in a public place, doing something you normally would, or even everyday things that need to be done. It's like expecting a pregnant lady who is grossed out by a certain scent and asking her to be around that smell!
It's ridiculous so don't ask, she will smell what she see fit and I will go or do what and when I see fit. The end.
It's one thing to be encouraging but it's another to be pushy and insensitive.
In my lows, I won't go to church, I turn down invitations to family events, watch the laundry pile up and procrastinate on everything. I can't tell you why, I'm not even sure why. Sometimes I can be caught in a daze, just staring at stuff and thinking of totally off the wall things. I'll glance at the kitchen and the next thing I know the dirty dishes are staring at me!! I'll have a few thought's about them and in my head thinking of how much I hate doing dishes. Instead of washing them, I find something else to do but that has to do with self improvement, in order that I may fix my mood so that I can wash those damn dishes.
Most the time I go around like Scarlet O'Hara telling myself "Oh, I'm not going to think about that now....I'll think about that tomorrow!", wipe my tears and turn around!
My point is, if you are abnormally un-sick: Just understand that when we don't want to then, we don't want to. No need to waste your words. Invite us and once we've said no thank you, leave it at that, please!
For us, the brotherhood of the mental ones: Don't feel bad if you're not up to doing stuff, just be aware of your mental state and try to keep yourself level so that if you know you are falling deeper you can ask for help. You don't want to completely seclude yourself. We still need a hand every now and then!
Thought for the day:
Don't feel bad when you can't explain why you feel the way you do or why you don't do what you should, but when you do do something, do it because you want to and that's all the reason you'll need!
Truly Yours
Dr. Nobody
I appreciate this blog especially...because I think there is something I am suppose to do for the other person....Or what didn't I do for the one that had depression growing up in our family...I just never understood and probably did more damage wanting to fix things...
ReplyDeleteJust being there is more than enough. Keeping your eye on the person to make sure they don't hurt themselves is what they need. It's hard to fix what you are not sure what is broken.
ReplyDeleteDistractions worked best for me. I find that if I am concentrating on something such as an activity or something creative, there is no space for the negative thoughts.
So distract your loved one even if they are unwilling at first, or try to find a hidden talent they have and focus on that....especially in one of their "lows".