Is there something in your past that you just can't seem to get over? You feel like it just happened yesterday and the pain you still feel is so real, no matter how long ago it happened? The memory of the even is so vivid, no matter how hard you try to delete it, it just wont go away!

I'm sorry to tell you that you can't delete it. It will be there forever and the images stuck in your head will pop up forever.

There is something you can do, though, you can  change how the memory of the event affect you. You can lessen the hurt and the hate. You can do this so much that instead of the memory sending you into a "low", it only hurts for a few hours, then later...it only hurts for 15 minutes. From that point, every time that memory pops up, it will only be a passing thought and you will have such an insignificant reaction to it that it doesn't affect you anymore. The memory of the even will no longer be able to control you!

To do this, you have to dissect the event and recognize at what point specifically, do you feel, changed you for the worst. If another person was involved, and you feel that they are responsible for what happened to you, then we need to look into why they did what they did. If it was just an event that happened and you were just there at the wrong place and time, then this will actually be a little easier.

Remember that you have every right to feel however you feel. In order for this to work, getting over something, you have to be willing to  change the way you see the event so that it can change the way you will now start feeling about it.

We all know that the first step to healing is to clean out those wounds. It's the most painful part, but the sooner you do it, the sooner it will heal, and the sooner you can go and get scraped up again...just kidding! No, but really, you gotta clean out your wounds so that you can move on. Let nothing hold you back!


If you would like to get started on that process email me at: helpfromdr.nobody@gmail.com



Happy healing!



Dr. Nobody