Get your control back!
Did you now that people, things, or past events only have control over us because have yet to make a decision! Yep, if it's a person who seems to have control over you, it's only because you are unsure of your own decisions, fear the reaction of that person should you gain your freedom back, and strangely, you are mistaking their control over you for guidance. You feel that, even though they are a pain to deal with, they still look after you, protect you. The truth, though is that they are really doing you more harm. But you aren't quite sure of what to do, you might know what you should do, but you have not made up your mind. So until you do, they will always have control over you!

If it's a thing controlling you, like a vice or phobia, you have not made a decision. Believe it or not, when a person "decides" to do something, there is a whole lot going on in your mind, heart and body. First, your mind a chosen and has weighed the options and 98% sure. Then your heart/feelings(1%) start to change. You become confidant and your feelings start to show on your face and you might even adjust your posture, and that's the body accepting your decision (1%). The end result is that you just fed your soul. It feels so great to make a decision, express yourself, and be satisfied and proud of your decision!

When a memory has control over you, you have not come to terms with what has happened. Not only that but you also are harboring negative feelings about the memory and how it made you feel at that time. You are stuck on the past. It is the most powerful control out there. Control over the mind. What are the chance if you are keeping something negative, that you become negative? It doesn't really make sense to keep holding the "hot potato", does it! Toss it!

Like I said, though, this is the toughest one. A person can stay in your life or leave it if you want. A vice or fear can be easily conquered. But for something that happened to you which the memory of destroys you, it take a whole lot of courage to stand up to it!

But it will always be there to inflict the same pain, until you DECIDE it will no longer!

So to help you decide: Be ok with how it made you feel. Don't ever be ashamed of how you feel or felt. Own up to it. Your feeling are precious and they make up the billions of personalities that make us all unique! But what are your actions after the fact? That's what needs regulating.

You decide how you react so that your actions give you no fault. Decide. We are given free will, so use it to your benefit!



Always

Dr. Nobody