Some might think that my last post was a little harsh. However, real life usually is. One might also wonder what parenting has to do with this Depression blog, it has a lot to do with it when you are the parent of a depressed person!

If we as parents did a better job at raising fine kids, we would better equip them with the tools they need to survive in this cruel world.

Kids are developing Depression at younger and younger ages than they were ten years ago! Our kids are freaking out. They don't know how to make real decisions. To them a choice is chocolate or vanilla ice cream!

When they are faced with real problems, they panic, don't measure consequences then when they have made the wrong choice, the get depressed. Then us parents are surprised and don't understand what went wrong or why our kids keep screwing up!

Because we didn't show them how to make wise decisions, how to think things through, not take things personally and show them that their best is enough. All these things feed into growing a strong healthy person.

Had certain values, lesson, wisdoms and concepts been shown to kids, the less chance there will be for them to ever have depression. Just like we should all be building up our immune systems, we need to help our kids build their ME Reflex too!


Now for the lax parents. You need to care more about your kids. Letting them roam the streets mean that the streets will teach them. Don't call yourself a parent if you are letting the world bring up your child.

Then when your kid goes missing or worse, you all cry and panic when you should be the one to blame. It's called neglect. You neglected to give a crap about where and who your kid hangs around with. How do you not know what your kids is doing? I don't get how people can care so little about their kids.

The world is not what it used to be. There are really bad people out there who are just waiting for you not to care about your kid. They are sitting around watching and loving how you leave you child to fend for itself.

Tell me, how are kids going to get involved in drugs, gangs, and sex if they are sitting in your house doing something productive while dinner is being made?


I just want to slap some parents!

We can prevent all these meltdowns that our kids are having if we just started to look at our parenting. We can give them the tools need to cope with life's problems and show them how to make the wiser choices and accept responsibility for their actions. As a parent you can help decrease the statistics of Depression in the younger generation.

Always

Dr. Nobody

Stop giving your kids everything! Stop being the drill Sargent too!

Everything is about balance.

For the parents who buy and buy and keep buying things for their children, you are not doing them any favors. You are only showing them affections through materialism. I'm sure you love seeing their reaction when they receive all the things you give them and it "make you happy to see them happy", but let me tell you a secret: Their smiles are just as big when you sit and play cars with them, or have tea with Mr. Waffles!

For the parents who truly think that they have to overspend and over plan special events for their kids...is "over"reacting!

You are only teaching them that happy memories come from objects. I hate to brake it to you, but you have a mental problem! Do you not see that all the time, money and effort you spend on acting this way is really only for you? Yes, you are being selfish. It's you wanting to see their smile so you can feel a smile on your own face! It's similar to when a parent pushes their child to succeed in school and sports...those overachievers, it's the parent who is looking for the gratification. The recognition and the praise, and when awards are to be given the parents say" I'm so proud of you!". The Selfish parents just want the sense of pride because the have no feelings of genuine pride for anything else in their lives.

You are doing the same thing for your kids. And it's all fake. They don't really care about the new toy that just cost you an arm and a leg. They don't care that you bought all the party favors, all matching theme crap, a clown and a petting zoo rentals. How many times have you heard a sincere thank you from your kids for all that stuff you have done for them?

You need to brake that cycle before they grow up and think that that is how you love children. Hurry, before they do it to their kids!

Now for you super strict parents, you have mental problems too. You have control issues. So if you had kids just so you can have control of something, you deserve to have your kids taken away from you.

As a privilege from God, He intended that we would help bring up a child. Protect them and guide them. Doing so would result in adult who would then have their own children and protect and guide them too. That cycle was to be repeated not mistreated. Your children are not your soldiers or your slaves. They belong to God.

Can you imagine how it must feel to have entrusted us humans to help bring up life and yet most children have no idea who God is!

The further away we get form Him, the more screwed up things get and then we stupidly wonder why! Why is this world so horrible, why so many diseases, why so much death and hate?

Because we are teaching our kids to love material things, never showing them that natural affection and love for our neighbors is the cure to war and hate. We are teaching them that is is okay to be in control of other humans especially if they are "your kids and you are going to raise them how ever you please".

Get off you power trip, stop loving your kids with things and analyze yourself so that you can see how wrong you are, then brake the cycle and truly raise your kids with real love...God's love.


No wonder we are all depressed!

Thought for the day:

Parents who spoil---SPOIL is a negative word.
Parents who are drill Sgt.s- Find your fellow strict parents and go open a new jail, it will be filled with all your kids!
Parents who are lax-.....You'll be on the next blog!

Truly

Dr. Nobody

A part from being sick, in two days I have seen to bad accounts of child abuse. I am truly scarred by it.

I couldn't sleep.

Does it make me just as evil to want to destroy the people who could do such a thing to God's babies?

If my heart hurts for the little ones, I can only imagine the rage God must feel.

The wicked in this world is only the devils fault. I do feel sorry for those who mistakenly blame God. They apparently do not know Him enough!


The reason for me bringing this up in my blog is because so many who suffer from Depression can't watch news for the very reason that is has a larger impact on us. I will be screwed up for a while now but I know my only help is from God.

You cannot forget God. He is with you and He does hear you. He wants nothing more than to see you in the light and out of the darkness forever.

There is only one thing you have to do...call on Him!


Thought of the day:

Blaming God is like blaming your parents for anything that ever went wrong for you. Are you telling me your brain doesn't work that you have never made one decision yourself? That's what I thought.


Truly Yours

Dr. Nobody

My sister had shared a quote:


" It's been said, 'time heals all wounds'. I do not agree. The words remain. In time, the mind, protecting it's sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessons. But it's never gone."  - Rose Kennedy


I strongly disagree.

As time passes you lose interest in the event altogether and slowly the wound starts to heal. The less you are, the more you heal. In reality, it's not so much the actual action that hurts, it's the betrayal of the one you thought you knew, that actually hurts. Then you start to wonder what other things you thought were true or not all this time!

But the truth is, when you start to see people for what they are, the shock of their actions against you no longer hurt....it will then become you just putting up with their crap and getting tired of it!

And that, my friends, takes time! Time to let people show their true colors!!

Yes there will be scars, but that is just proof that you have been hurt before! If it is scarred, it's also healed! There is nothing wrong with the memory of a wound, no matter how deep or how painful it was. The scar is also proof that you survived and are well today!

Now if you refuse to let go of something, then that would be just like putting a Band-Aid over the wound, and that is not good.

Time will heal your wounds, because only in time will you learn that you can either let the wound(s) heal or not......totally up to you....they are your wounds, no one else's!!


Always

Dr. Nobody

You know, the moment you decide to change your life is the very moment you become great! To be great you don't have to be a man made millionare. You don't have to have invented some new technology or have walked on the moon.

All it takes to be great is to be better than before. Before what? Before yesterday, or before you just made the decision. Before you read this blog! It doesn't matter, the simple act of deciding to be greater than you were just a moment ago is what make you the greatest right now!

Who cares if you have messed up a lot. So just because you didn't know any better before, means you can't do better now? All of that doesn't matter now. That happened before, but now you know and now is the moment you decide if you are going to be greater than you were yesterday!

You can do it! You just have to decide. Make the disicion to be the greatest you have ever been! Everyday wake up deciding to be greater than yesterday...then you WILL be!




Thought for the day:

If you keep over thinking the steps you'll have to take to bring great new changes, you'll never take the first step!


Truly

Dr. Nobody

You have Depression, so what!!

You know, having Depression doesn't mean you get to get away with things or not doing certain things. You need to be accountable for you actions just like any other person. Being depressed does not give you a free hall pass, a get out of jail free card, or an insanity plea!

You have an illness, yes, but that is only half of who you are!

The other half of you is just fine and functions just like the rest of the world. That mean that you KNOW what you are doing and are well aware of all consequences, good and bad. Stop with the excuses or the pity party.

You can't just think that you have nothing or nobody because of your Depression. Yes Depression is a massive black cloud invading your life...open a flipp'n window and air that shit out!

If telling yourself that there is now help out there for you, you are right, out the is only encouragement and you life waiting for you to live it. The help is in the mirror!

If you are not open to what will improve you life and give you the control over your Depression, then you are just a jerk. Plain and simple. Like the alcoholic who is in denial. The slut who is just trying to provide for her kids. Seriously, open your eyes. You are an alcoholic and act like a fool, you are a slut who wants easy money instead of really working, and you have Depression and you are not possessed by demons so the crap you do and don't do is totally up to you and is your fault!

It's like the Diabetic who is still eating all that crap, the lung Cancer patient who still smokes, the morbidly obese who get surgery and have no results because the keep stuffing their face with burgers and fries! I can't stand dumb people. If you refuse to take responsibility for your actions, then leave everyone else alone, quite crying about your situation and making your family and friends deal with your self inflicted drama!

Now that I just slapped you into your senses, what now?

Well, first start forgiving yourself for your past mistakes and know that now you know what not to do! Now you can start fresh, just like that! Start fresh today, don't waste any time and make your life better right now!

You just got your control back. It's in your hand now! What are you going to do? Drop it and keep making excuses, or grab hold of it and refuse to let it go?



Thought for the day:

Because of our Depression, we are already at the bottom, all we have is to go up!


Always

Dr. Nobody

Is your therapy working?

So how do you know if it is or if it's not? You go weekly, monthly or maybe even more frequent than that. Well let me tell how  you can find out if you are benefiting or not!

If you feel like you can't miss one session, it's not working!

If you have been going for over a year, it's not working!

If you where to measure you Depression on a scale of 1 to 10 of how you felt going into the therapy and what you would be at now, if you are just a few numbers up, it's not working!



Let me tell you why.

Therapy, for example, physical therapy, is meant to get you back to the best you can be. Say you broke a leg so you go to therapy and gradually you get the strength back until you can function on your own or with very minimal help(crutches, walker, etc.). The whole point is that you build the strength and stability to sustain yourself!

So why are people going to psychologist and or therapist for years?

Plain and simple. Money.

It's sad but true! Gosh, even rehab does better. Once you've been clean for a bit, they hope to never see you again. They hope they have been able to provide you with what you need to not have a relapse!

A therapist/psychologist/councilor should be doing the same for you. They are suppose to provide you with support, guidance and tools that will help you gain your strength so that you can sustain yourself and get through your Depression! Once they have done that, there is no need to go back on a regular basis. Sure, make a phone call to give thanks for their help or just to let them know how well you are doing. If you have an occasional fall, set up a session just to boost your ME Reflex.

So if you find yourself in this position, what should you do?

Stop going to that one. If you feel you need to go to some type of therapy, then interview a new one. The first and only question you should ask them is "How many years have you had a clients?", if they give an answer of more than one year...say no thank you and search some more!

A therapist who has you feeling like you need them as if they are your fix, has got you just where they want you!

If you just need someone to talk to or listen to your problems, if that is all you feel you need, then write me. I'm free! I will always respond. I won't judge you. I won't waste your time because I am always here for when you need to talk or express yourself. Ask away, I will answer!

I have better tools and fist hand experience in Depression in order to help a fellow sufferer. That is what this blog is for, free help and insight for those who suffer from Depression or those who need help coping with their loved one who suffers!

Always

Dr. Nobody