No slacking! What, you think because you are having a good day that you get to just bask in the sun!!! NO! There's no time to keep your arms crossed and sitting on your butt! You've got work to do!
This is when you have to make the most out of this moment of clarity. By "moment" I don't mean your are only going to feel ok for a couple minutes, I mean that this moment could only last a couple hours, maybe even a whole day, but I hope this moment lasts a few days, for your sake.
Right now, yes this very second, do something! Start strength training your brain! Right now that you are not being consumed by feelings and negative thoughts, is when you need to teach yourself how to keep it that way as long as you can!
You will accomplish more right now if you start. It might be hard to concentrate but have to do your best. Being able to take control of your Depression depends on your willingness to change what's happening to you.
The negative people are not going to go away. How you feel about them and what the say or do, can go away. You don't have to be offended, you don't have to believe what they say. Why is it that for some reason when someone says kind things to you choose to believe that, you don't have to. There have been time when you didn't believe something nice someone said about you. You know what I'm talking about. Like when someone once told you that you are beautiful/handsome....you said thank you but the first thought in your head was saying the opposite! That is you choosing to disregard the positive thing they just told you. So why can't you chose to disregard the negative things told to us?
If you really felt you were a loser, that there's nothing worth living for, that there is no meaning to your life, that you will always be alone, nobody cares, you were meant to suffer...then you wouldn't be reading this would you! You'd be in an institution on suicide watch!
Deep down inside us we are instilled with the desire to live. The desire to learn and seek more knowledge. To explore and find things to do that make us feel alive. I'm not saying you have to be a thrill seeker, just that we weren't meant to veg out on the couch or seclude ourselves in our rooms.
So the point is that you do want to live, you just don't want to live in your current situation. You are alone, but that's because you won't leave your house or be open to help from those who are being supportive. There is meaning to life, you just have no motivation to find out what that is. People do care, that why I write my blog and others find other ways to help each other! And you are a loser if you refuse to help yourself, expecting everyone else to drop what they are doing to rescue you. And you will suffer if that what you believe you were meant for. That mentality will be your ball and chain.
Just like you can take to heart my words or dismiss them as you read each sentence, it all is up to you. It's your choice to believe me if you think there is any truth in my words or you could choose to be offended by my lack of sugar coating things, or you could just assume that everything I write about is unattainable but somehow it magically worked for me!
What ever your opinion, it's your choice, I can't choose for you, no one else can. Choosing means having the power to change something for yourself.
If you really think you have no power to control your own life or choose what to believe or choose how you will let things affect you, then fine, I will choose for you. I will take the power you are giving up and now with that power I'm going to tell you that you are really a leprechaun. That on your search for the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow you lost your way and ended up were you are now!
Did it work? Please tell me it worked! Please tell me I was able to turn you into a two foot tall little guy in a green outfit!!
Of course it didn't work. That's because I cannot make you something you are not. Not only do you not believe me but hopefully you see the point. It would be absolutely ridiculous to even have tried to believe me! So why would you believe anything ridiculous that anyone else tells you? Just like right now you chose to not believe you are a leprechaun, you have a choice to be, act and believe what you want to!
YOU HAVE A CHOICE. YOU CHOOSE. YOU HAVE CHOSEN, SO NOW WHAT WILL YOU BE CHOOSING??????
Friday, July 25, 2014
Monday, June 30, 2014
Keep Silent!
Sometimes silence is the greatest source of power!
For as much as you would like to defend yourself and prove your innocence, there are times when the fight is pointless. More often than not, our opponent has no control over his/her own words, emotions, and actions.
In these cases, why waste your energy on such a person! The moment you start to blurt out your defense, in the intensity of the moment you are likely to say a few things you hadn't meant to. Not only that but, have you seen a person argue by themselves? It's funny! They get so mad because the are failing to get a reaction out of you! They feel powerless. And once they see you are not falling for their drama, the feel ridiculous, which usually cause them so become very angry!!
I find this amusing. Is that mean?!
I feel like, the more you keep your mouth shut, even though you have done nothing wrong and you really want to clear your good name, by saying nothing, you are filled with all this power. So much that even your chest is held out high for not letting out one word! But the second you waste your time defending yourself to meaningless argument by a meaningless person, you start to deflate like a balloon. Congratulations, you just became meaningless too!
The chances of that person believing you in the first place are really low anyway. Why bother correcting people like that. You know the truth and that's enough. If a person does not want to accept all the truths about you, they can go find people full of lies so that their accusations, claims, judgments and opinions can be made true!
Don't do it, don't feed the flame. If that person feels the need to attack you and is incapable of seeing the truth, then they don't deserve to have you in the first place! Consider the source! Monkey see monkey do. You don't have to be a monkey, that's all I'm saying!
Let the monkey act like one, when it sees you not partaking in the ridiculous behavior, it will go find other monkeys to act like a fool with!
You on the other hand, act like a mature human being and you will attract the same type of people in your life!
Thought of the day:
No monkey business!
Dr. Nobody
Sometimes silence is the greatest source of power!
For as much as you would like to defend yourself and prove your innocence, there are times when the fight is pointless. More often than not, our opponent has no control over his/her own words, emotions, and actions.
In these cases, why waste your energy on such a person! The moment you start to blurt out your defense, in the intensity of the moment you are likely to say a few things you hadn't meant to. Not only that but, have you seen a person argue by themselves? It's funny! They get so mad because the are failing to get a reaction out of you! They feel powerless. And once they see you are not falling for their drama, the feel ridiculous, which usually cause them so become very angry!!
I find this amusing. Is that mean?!
I feel like, the more you keep your mouth shut, even though you have done nothing wrong and you really want to clear your good name, by saying nothing, you are filled with all this power. So much that even your chest is held out high for not letting out one word! But the second you waste your time defending yourself to meaningless argument by a meaningless person, you start to deflate like a balloon. Congratulations, you just became meaningless too!
The chances of that person believing you in the first place are really low anyway. Why bother correcting people like that. You know the truth and that's enough. If a person does not want to accept all the truths about you, they can go find people full of lies so that their accusations, claims, judgments and opinions can be made true!
Don't do it, don't feed the flame. If that person feels the need to attack you and is incapable of seeing the truth, then they don't deserve to have you in the first place! Consider the source! Monkey see monkey do. You don't have to be a monkey, that's all I'm saying!
Let the monkey act like one, when it sees you not partaking in the ridiculous behavior, it will go find other monkeys to act like a fool with!
You on the other hand, act like a mature human being and you will attract the same type of people in your life!
Thought of the day:
No monkey business!
Dr. Nobody
Friday, June 27, 2014
Get your control back!
Did you now that people, things, or past events only have control over us because have yet to make a decision! Yep, if it's a person who seems to have control over you, it's only because you are unsure of your own decisions, fear the reaction of that person should you gain your freedom back, and strangely, you are mistaking their control over you for guidance. You feel that, even though they are a pain to deal with, they still look after you, protect you. The truth, though is that they are really doing you more harm. But you aren't quite sure of what to do, you might know what you should do, but you have not made up your mind. So until you do, they will always have control over you!
If it's a thing controlling you, like a vice or phobia, you have not made a decision. Believe it or not, when a person "decides" to do something, there is a whole lot going on in your mind, heart and body. First, your mind a chosen and has weighed the options and 98% sure. Then your heart/feelings(1%) start to change. You become confidant and your feelings start to show on your face and you might even adjust your posture, and that's the body accepting your decision (1%). The end result is that you just fed your soul. It feels so great to make a decision, express yourself, and be satisfied and proud of your decision!
When a memory has control over you, you have not come to terms with what has happened. Not only that but you also are harboring negative feelings about the memory and how it made you feel at that time. You are stuck on the past. It is the most powerful control out there. Control over the mind. What are the chance if you are keeping something negative, that you become negative? It doesn't really make sense to keep holding the "hot potato", does it! Toss it!
Like I said, though, this is the toughest one. A person can stay in your life or leave it if you want. A vice or fear can be easily conquered. But for something that happened to you which the memory of destroys you, it take a whole lot of courage to stand up to it!
But it will always be there to inflict the same pain, until you DECIDE it will no longer!
So to help you decide: Be ok with how it made you feel. Don't ever be ashamed of how you feel or felt. Own up to it. Your feeling are precious and they make up the billions of personalities that make us all unique! But what are your actions after the fact? That's what needs regulating.
You decide how you react so that your actions give you no fault. Decide. We are given free will, so use it to your benefit!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Thursday, June 26, 2014
Today is a big day for you! I bet you didn't even know it! Yes, today you have a major decision to make!
Did you know that everyday when you wake up, you have Control? The very moment you open those eyes, before any thoughts come into your head and reflect on your feeling, you have 100% percent control!
Say: Today I will remain in control. I am the boss here. Any negative thoughts will be fired immediately. If you don't like, you know where the door is! I don't have time for you if you have nothing to add to my day. So if you start taking away from my day, you are cut off!
When you start to think this way everyday that you wake up, it will become habit and you will start your day with control over your Depression. Pretty soon, when something happens that want to put a damper on your day, your new found control will not let it!
This is how you take back control.....at the starting line. Its always been there, just hanging out there! A line on the ground, waiting for you to take a stand in front of it! So....ready....on your mark...get set...........START!!!!!!!!!
I'll race you! If I win, you treat me to ice cream, you win I treat you. In the end.....we both get ice cream!! Win win!
Always.
Dr. Nobody
Did you know that everyday when you wake up, you have Control? The very moment you open those eyes, before any thoughts come into your head and reflect on your feeling, you have 100% percent control!
Say: Today I will remain in control. I am the boss here. Any negative thoughts will be fired immediately. If you don't like, you know where the door is! I don't have time for you if you have nothing to add to my day. So if you start taking away from my day, you are cut off!
When you start to think this way everyday that you wake up, it will become habit and you will start your day with control over your Depression. Pretty soon, when something happens that want to put a damper on your day, your new found control will not let it!
This is how you take back control.....at the starting line. Its always been there, just hanging out there! A line on the ground, waiting for you to take a stand in front of it! So....ready....on your mark...get set...........START!!!!!!!!!
I'll race you! If I win, you treat me to ice cream, you win I treat you. In the end.....we both get ice cream!! Win win!
Always.
Dr. Nobody
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
We can't call ourselves "human" anymore!
Who are we? What have we done to each other? The is nothing humane about us these days! We fight, we kill, we abuse, we neglect, we rape, we betray, we judge, we lie.
Our actions are no different than wild animals. Trying to intimidate in order to shy away the week. Challenging one another with such fierce aggression. Like freaking lions in Africa, it's all come down to the best hunting grounds and biggest territory. Destroying cubs that are not your offspring and only the acceptance of your own blood. Carelessly exiling "unworthy" "lame" members of the pride. Attacking outsiders just for getting too close. All about dominance.
There is no difference between them and us! How sad.
No wonder God put a detailed list of the Fruitages of the Spirit. He knew that without these qualities, what this world would come to!
Good news is, although we can't persuade others to start acting like humans...we sure can!
Did you know that doing something good for someone else actually makes us feel good? Yep, being an altruist has been chemically proven to feel good. Just like when you eat your favorite foods, you feel so satisfied with every bite!
Well maybe, just maybe, if we all started to help one another out with no intentions of personal gain, your might start to feel a little happier!
Thought for the day:
Cause and effect....duh!
Dr. Nobody
Who are we? What have we done to each other? The is nothing humane about us these days! We fight, we kill, we abuse, we neglect, we rape, we betray, we judge, we lie.
Our actions are no different than wild animals. Trying to intimidate in order to shy away the week. Challenging one another with such fierce aggression. Like freaking lions in Africa, it's all come down to the best hunting grounds and biggest territory. Destroying cubs that are not your offspring and only the acceptance of your own blood. Carelessly exiling "unworthy" "lame" members of the pride. Attacking outsiders just for getting too close. All about dominance.
There is no difference between them and us! How sad.
No wonder God put a detailed list of the Fruitages of the Spirit. He knew that without these qualities, what this world would come to!
Good news is, although we can't persuade others to start acting like humans...we sure can!
Did you know that doing something good for someone else actually makes us feel good? Yep, being an altruist has been chemically proven to feel good. Just like when you eat your favorite foods, you feel so satisfied with every bite!
Well maybe, just maybe, if we all started to help one another out with no intentions of personal gain, your might start to feel a little happier!
Thought for the day:
Cause and effect....duh!
Dr. Nobody
Friday, June 20, 2014
Is there something in your past that you just can't seem to get over? You feel like it just happened yesterday and the pain you still feel is so real, no matter how long ago it happened? The memory of the even is so vivid, no matter how hard you try to delete it, it just wont go away!
I'm sorry to tell you that you can't delete it. It will be there forever and the images stuck in your head will pop up forever.
There is something you can do, though, you can change how the memory of the event affect you. You can lessen the hurt and the hate. You can do this so much that instead of the memory sending you into a "low", it only hurts for a few hours, then later...it only hurts for 15 minutes. From that point, every time that memory pops up, it will only be a passing thought and you will have such an insignificant reaction to it that it doesn't affect you anymore. The memory of the even will no longer be able to control you!
To do this, you have to dissect the event and recognize at what point specifically, do you feel, changed you for the worst. If another person was involved, and you feel that they are responsible for what happened to you, then we need to look into why they did what they did. If it was just an event that happened and you were just there at the wrong place and time, then this will actually be a little easier.
Remember that you have every right to feel however you feel. In order for this to work, getting over something, you have to be willing to change the way you see the event so that it can change the way you will now start feeling about it.
We all know that the first step to healing is to clean out those wounds. It's the most painful part, but the sooner you do it, the sooner it will heal, and the sooner you can go and get scraped up again...just kidding! No, but really, you gotta clean out your wounds so that you can move on. Let nothing hold you back!
If you would like to get started on that process email me at: helpfromdr.nobody@gmail.com
Happy healing!
Dr. Nobody
I'm sorry to tell you that you can't delete it. It will be there forever and the images stuck in your head will pop up forever.
There is something you can do, though, you can change how the memory of the event affect you. You can lessen the hurt and the hate. You can do this so much that instead of the memory sending you into a "low", it only hurts for a few hours, then later...it only hurts for 15 minutes. From that point, every time that memory pops up, it will only be a passing thought and you will have such an insignificant reaction to it that it doesn't affect you anymore. The memory of the even will no longer be able to control you!
To do this, you have to dissect the event and recognize at what point specifically, do you feel, changed you for the worst. If another person was involved, and you feel that they are responsible for what happened to you, then we need to look into why they did what they did. If it was just an event that happened and you were just there at the wrong place and time, then this will actually be a little easier.
Remember that you have every right to feel however you feel. In order for this to work, getting over something, you have to be willing to change the way you see the event so that it can change the way you will now start feeling about it.
We all know that the first step to healing is to clean out those wounds. It's the most painful part, but the sooner you do it, the sooner it will heal, and the sooner you can go and get scraped up again...just kidding! No, but really, you gotta clean out your wounds so that you can move on. Let nothing hold you back!
If you would like to get started on that process email me at: helpfromdr.nobody@gmail.com
Happy healing!
Dr. Nobody
Tuesday, June 10, 2014
As you can see, by the lack of new posts, I have been doing well! I seem to get a lot of my inspiration from my "lows".
You too can go along time feeling better than usual. Before you know it, feeling well and inspired to live will be your new "usual".
Nobody is going to magically appear and wish your worries away. There is now Night in Shining Armor to make you feel better. There is no such Goddess who will use her charms to take your Depression away.
That's all you!
You have to do it! All you have to do is change your mindset. MINDSET.
If you can perceive something the opposite you do now, then the feeling you have now would be the opposite too!
Right now you feel hopeless, worthless, mad, hateful even. You have no desire to change anything you do because it's a waste of time and energy since you know nothing will work anyway. You are tired of feeling disappointed and getting your hopes up. You are also afraid of doing something that would actually work and then you think you will feel like a fool for not having the answer earlier, especially when you find out the answer was a simple one.
All those negative thoughts and feelings are understandable, but, do you really want your Depression to go away? Don't say yes if you are not willing to do something about it! I don't care how many pills you've tried, how many psychologists you have seen, how many times you've been "admitted", how many "attempts" you've made, or how many people you know think you just want attention. If you do not want to take a persons advice in order to help yourself find some relief, then as far as I'm concerned, stop complaining!
There's nothing more annoying than a person complaining about what's wrong with them, yet sits there all helpless waiting for a unicorn to show up so they can be in awe and finally believe in something and then think that maybe there is something worth living for since you have a new pet unicorn!!! Seriously?!
That's not going to happen, so stop wasting time, try something new...listen to me! You might be shocked at how easy it is to feel better!
Dr. Nobody
You too can go along time feeling better than usual. Before you know it, feeling well and inspired to live will be your new "usual".
Nobody is going to magically appear and wish your worries away. There is now Night in Shining Armor to make you feel better. There is no such Goddess who will use her charms to take your Depression away.
That's all you!
You have to do it! All you have to do is change your mindset. MINDSET.
If you can perceive something the opposite you do now, then the feeling you have now would be the opposite too!
Right now you feel hopeless, worthless, mad, hateful even. You have no desire to change anything you do because it's a waste of time and energy since you know nothing will work anyway. You are tired of feeling disappointed and getting your hopes up. You are also afraid of doing something that would actually work and then you think you will feel like a fool for not having the answer earlier, especially when you find out the answer was a simple one.
All those negative thoughts and feelings are understandable, but, do you really want your Depression to go away? Don't say yes if you are not willing to do something about it! I don't care how many pills you've tried, how many psychologists you have seen, how many times you've been "admitted", how many "attempts" you've made, or how many people you know think you just want attention. If you do not want to take a persons advice in order to help yourself find some relief, then as far as I'm concerned, stop complaining!
There's nothing more annoying than a person complaining about what's wrong with them, yet sits there all helpless waiting for a unicorn to show up so they can be in awe and finally believe in something and then think that maybe there is something worth living for since you have a new pet unicorn!!! Seriously?!
That's not going to happen, so stop wasting time, try something new...listen to me! You might be shocked at how easy it is to feel better!
Dr. Nobody
You can't turn to God for help if you have no idea who He is!
I have seen others roll their eyes and walk away when someone mentions God when it comes to seeking help. I understand the reaction, and would probably react the same if I did not have much back round in a faith or know much about God in the first place.
Or you could be one who grew up in a certain faith and had a horrible experience and since then has not sought to reconcile your own religious beliefs.
Either way, I think it is unreasonable to hit someone with God as being the answer to all their problems when they have yet to get to know Him. Do they even know that God wants them to be close to Him? Do they believe in God? Do they know God has a name just like they do?
How can you tell a person who has only been suffering for years from Depression that God is the answer!
If God isn't real to you, how can He help you?
Honestly, you aren't ready for God's help right now! You will be ready when you aren't mad at the world and blaming everyone for your problems. You cant be open to God's love with all that hate in your heart. You can't understand what He has in store for you if you refuse to listen in order to understand! You won't be able to enjoy life if you hide in the shadows.
Just like a child can't learn in a hostile environment, being yelled at, nose stuck in books being forced to listen or read when really they are only hating the entire experience. Ahhh, but a child surrounded by colors, bright images, a playful teacher, music and patience will learn anything you put in front of it!!!
Except your not a child.....so get yourself out of your hostile environment and get ready to learn new things and be open to feeling how great it feels to be full of new insights, wisdom and faith!
Thought for the day:
It's amazing how easy it is to climb out of a hole when a hand is reached out to you, but if you think you got this....let's see how long it takes you to get out by yourself! Or...just take His hand!
Dr. Nobody
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
Be strong and take advantage of when you are clear headed. You never know when another bout of Depression is coming on, so you need to make the most out of your clear skies!
Get rib of as much clutter in your life as you can now that you can really see things they way they are and not the way Depressions fades them.
You have to be strong and trust yourself in these moments. No one else knows you better or what your needs are. This is the time to be brutally honest with yourself. No lies, no avoiding things. Just get it done!
Every time you do this, you will increase your strength...your ME Reflex.
It's time to do a "spring cleaning" and get rid of all the junk. If that means that it is a person that is poisoning your life, then so be it. Get it out!
I'm one of those person who has to do things the moment the idea come to me, otherwise the momentum is lost, and I get nothing done! Any one else like that??
That's goes for absolutely everything I do. Well maybe except parenting! When your kids need, you, they need you! Otherwise, If all the sudden I feel inspired to paint, I paint! I just thought of a story, I write! I'm craving a food and can already smell it, I go and make it! I have something really important on my mind, I pray!
A big part of being an authentic person is doing things when you feel like doing them, not when you have to, are told to, or are obligated to.
Same goes for even taking my advice. Don't do what I recommend, do what you feel like doing because you know it will better your life. And only do it when it feels like it's right. If you force yourself to do something your not feeling at that moment, you will be more prone to fail. When we fail, we go back to being bitter and less willing to seek changes or answers.
Thought for the day:
Don't let a sunny day fade away!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Get rib of as much clutter in your life as you can now that you can really see things they way they are and not the way Depressions fades them.
You have to be strong and trust yourself in these moments. No one else knows you better or what your needs are. This is the time to be brutally honest with yourself. No lies, no avoiding things. Just get it done!
Every time you do this, you will increase your strength...your ME Reflex.
It's time to do a "spring cleaning" and get rid of all the junk. If that means that it is a person that is poisoning your life, then so be it. Get it out!
I'm one of those person who has to do things the moment the idea come to me, otherwise the momentum is lost, and I get nothing done! Any one else like that??
That's goes for absolutely everything I do. Well maybe except parenting! When your kids need, you, they need you! Otherwise, If all the sudden I feel inspired to paint, I paint! I just thought of a story, I write! I'm craving a food and can already smell it, I go and make it! I have something really important on my mind, I pray!
A big part of being an authentic person is doing things when you feel like doing them, not when you have to, are told to, or are obligated to.
Same goes for even taking my advice. Don't do what I recommend, do what you feel like doing because you know it will better your life. And only do it when it feels like it's right. If you force yourself to do something your not feeling at that moment, you will be more prone to fail. When we fail, we go back to being bitter and less willing to seek changes or answers.
Thought for the day:
Don't let a sunny day fade away!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
You know what I hate? It's when people around you try to justify my actions with their own reasoning.
If you don't like a decision I am making, you have no right to say that I don't know what I am doing! Just because it does not go in your favor doesn't mean that it must be the Depression talking.
I really hate people who do this. Having Depression sucks and so does having bad people in our lives at the same time. Then when we are fine and we can clearly see all the poison being emitted from these people, we finally have two strong legs to stand on to defend our wellbeing, and they go on like they are the victim now that we want them gone! Really?
If you are only contributing to my Depression then you need to leave. I don't have time for you or the crap you bring. It might take a while to get your stench out but believe me it will be smelling like roses before too long!
It's my life and I don't need you in order to live. You want to be a part of my life, then prove to me why I should let you in!
I have enough problems trying to see the upside to things, to let you come around with a shadow on your arm. If you want to bring some laughter, smile, and life into my door, then great, come right in! Otherwise stay away until you can bring some light into my life.
Sorry if my rule are too demanding, but I was under the impression that the whole reason we have people in our lives was to enjoy each other, support each other, and encourage each other, but apparently I was wrong and we have to endure your bullshit too!
Whatever!
Fellow Depressed Ones, no one has a right to invade you life! It's your life and you get to choose who deserves to share it with you! You don't have time and energy to swim against the current. Take those people out of your life so you can live!
Always
Dr. Nobody
If you don't like a decision I am making, you have no right to say that I don't know what I am doing! Just because it does not go in your favor doesn't mean that it must be the Depression talking.
I really hate people who do this. Having Depression sucks and so does having bad people in our lives at the same time. Then when we are fine and we can clearly see all the poison being emitted from these people, we finally have two strong legs to stand on to defend our wellbeing, and they go on like they are the victim now that we want them gone! Really?
If you are only contributing to my Depression then you need to leave. I don't have time for you or the crap you bring. It might take a while to get your stench out but believe me it will be smelling like roses before too long!
It's my life and I don't need you in order to live. You want to be a part of my life, then prove to me why I should let you in!
I have enough problems trying to see the upside to things, to let you come around with a shadow on your arm. If you want to bring some laughter, smile, and life into my door, then great, come right in! Otherwise stay away until you can bring some light into my life.
Sorry if my rule are too demanding, but I was under the impression that the whole reason we have people in our lives was to enjoy each other, support each other, and encourage each other, but apparently I was wrong and we have to endure your bullshit too!
Whatever!
Fellow Depressed Ones, no one has a right to invade you life! It's your life and you get to choose who deserves to share it with you! You don't have time and energy to swim against the current. Take those people out of your life so you can live!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Thursday, April 10, 2014
For having Depression, I watch a lot of dark stuff. I'm not afraid of death. In fact, on my worst days I pray for it. I know that sound absolutely horrible, but that's just the way the mind is!
I like watching forensic TV shows, detective stuff, and other shows that contain graphic images of murders and crimes.
Why?
I guess it's a reality check. So much bad is happening every second we are alive, and the thought of that shows me that it's obviously not happening to me, so I'm not doing to bad if I'm not in that situation. I also feel like I am being reminded of how ugly and evil this world is, and every time I see what these horrible people are capable of doing to another human being, I think of how much more I need to protect my children from it.
Not only that but with each account told, I pray for that person or all who were affected by these horrible things done to them. If they died, I pray that God bring them back to a new life!
The things I can't watch, are ones that involve children, those absolutely ruin my day. It also causes me to hate, and although people who could do such things to children deserve to be hated, I can't afford to let hate grow in my heart having Depression.
When I see how easily a person can lose their life over nothing at all, I realize how much I really do want to live! To watch my children grow and discover life themselves! To enjoy every moment that we are in each others lives.
It's so easy to be distracted by everyday tasks, that you never notice the little changes in your children everyday. There truly is something that can be appreciated by each one of them every single day, and that is what those shows help me realize! That I'm not crazy, I'm not lost to the devil, I'm sane in comparison!
If you have Depression and you have done nothing like what is on these shows......then there is hope for you! You are not lost forever, you are just taking the scenic route!
Always
Dr Nobody
I like watching forensic TV shows, detective stuff, and other shows that contain graphic images of murders and crimes.
Why?
I guess it's a reality check. So much bad is happening every second we are alive, and the thought of that shows me that it's obviously not happening to me, so I'm not doing to bad if I'm not in that situation. I also feel like I am being reminded of how ugly and evil this world is, and every time I see what these horrible people are capable of doing to another human being, I think of how much more I need to protect my children from it.
Not only that but with each account told, I pray for that person or all who were affected by these horrible things done to them. If they died, I pray that God bring them back to a new life!
The things I can't watch, are ones that involve children, those absolutely ruin my day. It also causes me to hate, and although people who could do such things to children deserve to be hated, I can't afford to let hate grow in my heart having Depression.
When I see how easily a person can lose their life over nothing at all, I realize how much I really do want to live! To watch my children grow and discover life themselves! To enjoy every moment that we are in each others lives.
It's so easy to be distracted by everyday tasks, that you never notice the little changes in your children everyday. There truly is something that can be appreciated by each one of them every single day, and that is what those shows help me realize! That I'm not crazy, I'm not lost to the devil, I'm sane in comparison!
If you have Depression and you have done nothing like what is on these shows......then there is hope for you! You are not lost forever, you are just taking the scenic route!
Always
Dr Nobody
Tuesday, April 8, 2014
For those of you who think that there is no help and that you are condemned to a life of Depression forever, you are wrong.
From my experience, the younger you are when you find the right answers, the easier it is to help yourself. Part of the reason that happens is because you have been suffering for so long and every attempt for relief has failed, that you end up becoming so pessimistic. You have every reason to feel that way. It's not your fault that you can't see any way out.
I will tell you this, if someone comes along your way, tells you that you don't have to live in Depressionville anymore, you need to stop what you are doing, and find out what they mean!
Listening to someone might just save your life!
Also, you will change when you are ready for change. It will not be easy and I'm sure you are aware of that, but wanting that change to happen bad enough is what will let you start being open to the change in the first place. When a person refuses help in any form that it is available in, he/she is either not fed up with living in hell yet, or just plain immature for throwing a fit and crossing their arms saying that there is no help!
Reminds me of the lottery commercials: You can't win if you don't play
Depression: You can't see the light if your eyes are shut...dummy!
Or, the one for Almond Milk: What do you mean you won't try it because you don't know what it tastes like?!
Yeah, dumb right!
So quit pouting, rolling your eyes, and listen.
It's called: Cause and effect
The more you look for answers, the more likely you will find one! The more you focus on something, the more you details you will be able to see! The more you practice using tools given to you, the more you will master them!
The more you do nothing, the more nothing will happen for you. The more you give up, the more you are giving up. The more obstinate you become, the more obsolete you become!
Which is better? Living the rest of your life complaining about how horrible your life is because you have Depression, or living the rest of your life living so you can leave Depression behind?
Dr Nobody
From my experience, the younger you are when you find the right answers, the easier it is to help yourself. Part of the reason that happens is because you have been suffering for so long and every attempt for relief has failed, that you end up becoming so pessimistic. You have every reason to feel that way. It's not your fault that you can't see any way out.
I will tell you this, if someone comes along your way, tells you that you don't have to live in Depressionville anymore, you need to stop what you are doing, and find out what they mean!
Listening to someone might just save your life!
Also, you will change when you are ready for change. It will not be easy and I'm sure you are aware of that, but wanting that change to happen bad enough is what will let you start being open to the change in the first place. When a person refuses help in any form that it is available in, he/she is either not fed up with living in hell yet, or just plain immature for throwing a fit and crossing their arms saying that there is no help!
Reminds me of the lottery commercials: You can't win if you don't play
Depression: You can't see the light if your eyes are shut...dummy!
Or, the one for Almond Milk: What do you mean you won't try it because you don't know what it tastes like?!
Yeah, dumb right!
So quit pouting, rolling your eyes, and listen.
It's called: Cause and effect
The more you look for answers, the more likely you will find one! The more you focus on something, the more you details you will be able to see! The more you practice using tools given to you, the more you will master them!
The more you do nothing, the more nothing will happen for you. The more you give up, the more you are giving up. The more obstinate you become, the more obsolete you become!
Which is better? Living the rest of your life complaining about how horrible your life is because you have Depression, or living the rest of your life living so you can leave Depression behind?
Dr Nobody
Friday, April 4, 2014
Believe it or not, as corny as it sounds, writing can help!
Someone I know had tons of issues, about everything. They thought they knew how they felt about things or thought their opinion on something was solid. After asking them various questions, turn out, they had no idea how they really felt about things!
Once they took my advice and started writing, they where not only able to release some stored up pressure, but they also were able to get down to the bottom of their issues. Some things from their past that they had always avoided, finally came out. Having confronted those things, they could now start to heal themselves!
Not only that, but writing your thoughts and feelings about things really helps you discover who you are. And who you are is really important! How can you defend yourself or make the right choices for yourself if you have no idea who you are or what you believe?
Most of us think that no one else knows us better, but the reality is that, most the time you don't either!
If there is something major going on in your life right now, you need to sit down, grab a note pad, and write it all down! Write what is happening, how it is affecting you, what you think about it, how you feel, and what you can learn from it that will strengthen you for the future!
And don't be a smart ass and say that there's nothing you can take away form the experience because it's a bad one!
There is a negative for every positive, an opposite! So no matter how horrible the event is that is happening to you, there is always going to be that one positive thing(or maybe a few), that can completely change what is happening to you.
Most of us never see a positive side when something negative is happing to us. We are blinded from it. But you don't have to be, you can choose to see it if you want to. I'm telling you that for your own good! Open your eyes, look around, and look for the little spec of light! It will get bigger the closer you get to it!
You will be surprised what you will find out about yourself once you see what you look like on paper!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Someone I know had tons of issues, about everything. They thought they knew how they felt about things or thought their opinion on something was solid. After asking them various questions, turn out, they had no idea how they really felt about things!
Once they took my advice and started writing, they where not only able to release some stored up pressure, but they also were able to get down to the bottom of their issues. Some things from their past that they had always avoided, finally came out. Having confronted those things, they could now start to heal themselves!
Not only that, but writing your thoughts and feelings about things really helps you discover who you are. And who you are is really important! How can you defend yourself or make the right choices for yourself if you have no idea who you are or what you believe?
Most of us think that no one else knows us better, but the reality is that, most the time you don't either!
If there is something major going on in your life right now, you need to sit down, grab a note pad, and write it all down! Write what is happening, how it is affecting you, what you think about it, how you feel, and what you can learn from it that will strengthen you for the future!
And don't be a smart ass and say that there's nothing you can take away form the experience because it's a bad one!
There is a negative for every positive, an opposite! So no matter how horrible the event is that is happening to you, there is always going to be that one positive thing(or maybe a few), that can completely change what is happening to you.
Most of us never see a positive side when something negative is happing to us. We are blinded from it. But you don't have to be, you can choose to see it if you want to. I'm telling you that for your own good! Open your eyes, look around, and look for the little spec of light! It will get bigger the closer you get to it!
You will be surprised what you will find out about yourself once you see what you look like on paper!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Friday, March 28, 2014
Fear is probably the worst thing you can find in this world(or spiders)!
No really, fear is the root cause of so many horrible things that we can see just after one minute of watching the news. I don't just mean a phobia of something, I mean the fear that causes us to do what we do. Almost everything we do, we do it out of fear!
We love because we fear of not being loved back. We love because we might fear being alone. We love because we fear what might happen if we don't love. We love because we fear it's opposite.
We are angry because we fear being hurt again. We hate because we fear changing our point of view. We are jealous because we fear we are not good enough. We are emotionless because we fear for the worst.
We go to war because we fear what would happen if we didn't fight back. We lie because we fear the consequences of our own actions. We are materialistic because we fear what other might think of us if we have less. We are tough assholes because we fear being thought of as a pushover. We are violent because we fear loss of control.
We stick to tradition because we fear feeling like a fool for never seeking the truth behind what we believed all this time. We deny God because we fear the changes that need to be made once you know. We stick to a religion because we fear judgment of those we've been seeing every Sunday. We defend our churches even after countless accounts of sexual molestation by the priests because we fear reality.
We give up on our health because we fear the lack of results. We stay in that abusive relationship because we fear that no one else will accept you. We are controlling our wives because we fear that if we don't she will find someone better than me. We fight because we fear that if nothing is ever wrong then maybe it isn't real. We stay together because we fear that we won't find someone who will accept and love your children.
Fear is the root cause of 99% of our actions. Fear is powerful. Fear has been controlling all of us. The funny thing about fear is that it is just an emotion, and God has let us control our own emotions. Yet, we have let an emotion take control over everything we do!!
The few of us who seek the truth, look for answers that make sense, ask questions, learn who to change along with the new information they receive, are the ones who are taking back the control they have lost. They are the ones who want to find the meaning of being alive!
Thought for the day:
Imagine if Wisdom was the root cause of all our actions!!
Always
Dr. Nobody
No really, fear is the root cause of so many horrible things that we can see just after one minute of watching the news. I don't just mean a phobia of something, I mean the fear that causes us to do what we do. Almost everything we do, we do it out of fear!
We love because we fear of not being loved back. We love because we might fear being alone. We love because we fear what might happen if we don't love. We love because we fear it's opposite.
We are angry because we fear being hurt again. We hate because we fear changing our point of view. We are jealous because we fear we are not good enough. We are emotionless because we fear for the worst.
We go to war because we fear what would happen if we didn't fight back. We lie because we fear the consequences of our own actions. We are materialistic because we fear what other might think of us if we have less. We are tough assholes because we fear being thought of as a pushover. We are violent because we fear loss of control.
We stick to tradition because we fear feeling like a fool for never seeking the truth behind what we believed all this time. We deny God because we fear the changes that need to be made once you know. We stick to a religion because we fear judgment of those we've been seeing every Sunday. We defend our churches even after countless accounts of sexual molestation by the priests because we fear reality.
We give up on our health because we fear the lack of results. We stay in that abusive relationship because we fear that no one else will accept you. We are controlling our wives because we fear that if we don't she will find someone better than me. We fight because we fear that if nothing is ever wrong then maybe it isn't real. We stay together because we fear that we won't find someone who will accept and love your children.
Fear is the root cause of 99% of our actions. Fear is powerful. Fear has been controlling all of us. The funny thing about fear is that it is just an emotion, and God has let us control our own emotions. Yet, we have let an emotion take control over everything we do!!
The few of us who seek the truth, look for answers that make sense, ask questions, learn who to change along with the new information they receive, are the ones who are taking back the control they have lost. They are the ones who want to find the meaning of being alive!
Thought for the day:
Imagine if Wisdom was the root cause of all our actions!!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Friday, March 14, 2014
The hopelessness one can feel in Depression is so overwhelming. You are consumed by all the negative and sad thoughts of everything you don't have, everything you aren't, everything you have lost. With all of that hitting you all at the same time, you really do feel like you and your life has no value so why even be alive.
Trying to imagine things that seem so far out of your reach, seeing yourself as something better than what you think you are now, and all that has been lost finding it's way back to you, is all so impossible that the best we can do is try to imagine it. And because we are only capable of trying to imagine, nothing seems worthwhile to even give a real effort.
The longer we are stuck in the Hopelessness Suite at The Depression Hotel, the more we want to stay in the room. It's all we know. To us, leaving the room is way too risky. We know how to be sad. We know how to curl up in a ball and cry for hours. We know how to justify the darkness that surrounds us.
We don't know how to let fear go. We don't know how to do something that might just hurt us again. We don't know how to react to new changes that might show us that we have been in hell when we could've been in paradise this whole time. Telling us that all this bad stuff we have been living can all go away in the snap of your fingers only makes us more upset.
How dare you tell us that all the pain and suffering, hurt and the hate, loss and loneliness we have been enduring will all mean nothing if we only come out of the room. How can that be? Does that mean everything I have felt for the last days, months, and years has been for nothing?
And that my friends, is why we might stay in the dark.
Like a terrified animal stuck in that dark corner. It ran there to seek safety in hiding. Not wanting to be seen but able to see the outside. But there is not water no food no light. So now that it's been there quivering in it's dark place, it is also not nourishing it's body. It's eyes have accustomed to the dark and the cold. Seeing the outside world look so scary form here.
But if you don't get out soon, the lack of food, water, and contact with all life forces will bring you to your end.
Just as when the lights turn on and for a split second your eyes hurt for the new adjustment, so this will be too! I know you don't want to turn on the light. It's bright, I know.
How about if you cover your eyes, I turn on the light, then you slowly uncover your eyes as the start to adjust!
Once you are in the light, you will finally be able to see what wasn't visible while you sat in the darkness! That darkness made everything you saw a shade darker, maybe even black! Now you will see everything as it is and I promise that you will see every brilliant color as it was made to be!
Everything you suffered and have felt while in the darkness is still real, it still means a lot. You didn't suffer for no reason and you have every right to have felt the way you have all that time. Let me help you find out what it was all for!
Thought for the day:
It can take up to 20 years for pearl to be made....but first it's stuck in that dark place in a shell!! (just saying!)
Always
Dr. Nobody
Trying to imagine things that seem so far out of your reach, seeing yourself as something better than what you think you are now, and all that has been lost finding it's way back to you, is all so impossible that the best we can do is try to imagine it. And because we are only capable of trying to imagine, nothing seems worthwhile to even give a real effort.
The longer we are stuck in the Hopelessness Suite at The Depression Hotel, the more we want to stay in the room. It's all we know. To us, leaving the room is way too risky. We know how to be sad. We know how to curl up in a ball and cry for hours. We know how to justify the darkness that surrounds us.
We don't know how to let fear go. We don't know how to do something that might just hurt us again. We don't know how to react to new changes that might show us that we have been in hell when we could've been in paradise this whole time. Telling us that all this bad stuff we have been living can all go away in the snap of your fingers only makes us more upset.
How dare you tell us that all the pain and suffering, hurt and the hate, loss and loneliness we have been enduring will all mean nothing if we only come out of the room. How can that be? Does that mean everything I have felt for the last days, months, and years has been for nothing?
And that my friends, is why we might stay in the dark.
Like a terrified animal stuck in that dark corner. It ran there to seek safety in hiding. Not wanting to be seen but able to see the outside. But there is not water no food no light. So now that it's been there quivering in it's dark place, it is also not nourishing it's body. It's eyes have accustomed to the dark and the cold. Seeing the outside world look so scary form here.
But if you don't get out soon, the lack of food, water, and contact with all life forces will bring you to your end.
Just as when the lights turn on and for a split second your eyes hurt for the new adjustment, so this will be too! I know you don't want to turn on the light. It's bright, I know.
How about if you cover your eyes, I turn on the light, then you slowly uncover your eyes as the start to adjust!
Once you are in the light, you will finally be able to see what wasn't visible while you sat in the darkness! That darkness made everything you saw a shade darker, maybe even black! Now you will see everything as it is and I promise that you will see every brilliant color as it was made to be!
Everything you suffered and have felt while in the darkness is still real, it still means a lot. You didn't suffer for no reason and you have every right to have felt the way you have all that time. Let me help you find out what it was all for!
Thought for the day:
It can take up to 20 years for pearl to be made....but first it's stuck in that dark place in a shell!! (just saying!)
Always
Dr. Nobody
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
It's so easy to use your Depression as an excuse. An excuse to justify your behavior, the lack of trying, and an excuse to not have to have responsibilities that you have gotten away with not having for a very long time!
Just like any other disease, if the suffer uses it in order to gain pity and have everything done for them, then you deserve to suffer from whatever the sickness is. Being mad at the world because you have a problem is not right, and making your family and friends have to deal with it just makes you look worse of a person.
Every human being has the capacity to be great. No matter what ailments we suffer from, we still have the ability to be awesome! There is so much more than staying home and bathing in self pity.
Go out and find what you are good at. If that happens to be a hundred things, then great!
If you refuse to accept that only you can make your Depression better, then so be it. Stay that way...but quit making others pay for your choices!
Now if you have that "Ah ha!" moment, then you just made everyone happy! I don't know you, but even I would be truly happy for you if you have been lost in Depression and then all the sudden you realize that your life is worth living! I want fellow sufferers to find the control they lost when Depression took over their lives. It feels so good so see the progress you make every time you have a low and see that each time it lasts less and less!
Though for the day:
The moment you choose to take back your life, you will start living!
Yours Truly
Dr. Nobody
Just like any other disease, if the suffer uses it in order to gain pity and have everything done for them, then you deserve to suffer from whatever the sickness is. Being mad at the world because you have a problem is not right, and making your family and friends have to deal with it just makes you look worse of a person.
Every human being has the capacity to be great. No matter what ailments we suffer from, we still have the ability to be awesome! There is so much more than staying home and bathing in self pity.
Go out and find what you are good at. If that happens to be a hundred things, then great!
If you refuse to accept that only you can make your Depression better, then so be it. Stay that way...but quit making others pay for your choices!
Now if you have that "Ah ha!" moment, then you just made everyone happy! I don't know you, but even I would be truly happy for you if you have been lost in Depression and then all the sudden you realize that your life is worth living! I want fellow sufferers to find the control they lost when Depression took over their lives. It feels so good so see the progress you make every time you have a low and see that each time it lasts less and less!
Though for the day:
The moment you choose to take back your life, you will start living!
Yours Truly
Dr. Nobody
Friday, March 7, 2014
Today is a very sad day for me. just two years ago I lost my Grandfather.
I was all happy go lucky today until I was accidentally reminded of had happened two years ago today. So far there has been no other even that has been able to compare to this worst day of my life.
He was always supportive and kind to me. He taught me how to cook. The memories of those times are priceless! The memories of him telling me stories of growing up are wonderful! But the advice and lessons he taught me are even more valuable!
I want nothing more to crawl up into a ball and cry all day, but I can't. If I loose my cool, all the work I have done do strengthen myself will have proven to fail. I will do my best to distract myself.
Maybe I'll take my kids to do something fun! Or maybe I'll go to a bookstore, I can spend hours in a bookstore! I might even do a spring cleaning of the house so I can be really distracted!!
All I know is that I have to do something! If I don't occupy my mind with something productive, it will leave time to dwell on the loss. I can't have that.
I'm stronger than that.
I can hold back the tears. It's a choice. I am going to choose to be strong and be the wiser. I know that if I don't control my thoughts, my emotions will take over. But I am one of the strongest persons I know. I intend on keeping it that way!
I am strength. I am wise. I am in control. I am ME!
Always
Dr. Nobody
I was all happy go lucky today until I was accidentally reminded of had happened two years ago today. So far there has been no other even that has been able to compare to this worst day of my life.
He was always supportive and kind to me. He taught me how to cook. The memories of those times are priceless! The memories of him telling me stories of growing up are wonderful! But the advice and lessons he taught me are even more valuable!
I want nothing more to crawl up into a ball and cry all day, but I can't. If I loose my cool, all the work I have done do strengthen myself will have proven to fail. I will do my best to distract myself.
Maybe I'll take my kids to do something fun! Or maybe I'll go to a bookstore, I can spend hours in a bookstore! I might even do a spring cleaning of the house so I can be really distracted!!
All I know is that I have to do something! If I don't occupy my mind with something productive, it will leave time to dwell on the loss. I can't have that.
I'm stronger than that.
I can hold back the tears. It's a choice. I am going to choose to be strong and be the wiser. I know that if I don't control my thoughts, my emotions will take over. But I am one of the strongest persons I know. I intend on keeping it that way!
I am strength. I am wise. I am in control. I am ME!
Always
Dr. Nobody
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
I can't stress enough, the importance of strengthening your ME Reflex. If you have kids and have Depression, it's a matter of life and darkness for you children for you to do so. The chances are pretty high for them to have Depression. You can greatly impact their lives by you being the best you can with managing your Depression so that if they inherit it, theirs will be mild. Mild due to you teaching them how to change the way they perceive and react to problems and people throughout their lives.
My daughter started to show signs of Depression and after two weeks of seeing her crying everyday after school because someone said something that hurt her feeling or because I said "no" to something, I call my Naturopath doctor right away and gave her a remedy. Within days her emotional reactions became more normal. She had only had to take the remedy dose once! Today we still work on building her ME Reflex so that she can maintain her stability.
By me having worked on my ME Reflex all these years, the moment my daughter showed signs of Depression, I was able to address it in time before it could conquer her little heart and mind! Had I never found the awareness I did, I would've been all involved and lost in my own Depression and never noticed or been aware of my child's mental and emotional state!
By no means should you only strengthen your ME Reflex if you have kids. You HAVE to for your own sake. Not to mention God owns you! Yes, He made you so that you can live! He made the earth so that YOU can enjoy it, breathe the fresh air, smell the rain, see the beauty, feel the thunder, see the endless skies and feel the love for fellow humans! He gave us our senses in order to fully take in all that He has given us, but He also gave us our mind, heart and soul in order to take all that to the 100th degree!
So when we are having a malfunction, we need to do our best to fix it so that we can use what He so kindly gave us!
Thought for the day:
You are your most precious belonging, how well do you take care of your stuff?
Always
Dr. Nobody
My daughter started to show signs of Depression and after two weeks of seeing her crying everyday after school because someone said something that hurt her feeling or because I said "no" to something, I call my Naturopath doctor right away and gave her a remedy. Within days her emotional reactions became more normal. She had only had to take the remedy dose once! Today we still work on building her ME Reflex so that she can maintain her stability.
By me having worked on my ME Reflex all these years, the moment my daughter showed signs of Depression, I was able to address it in time before it could conquer her little heart and mind! Had I never found the awareness I did, I would've been all involved and lost in my own Depression and never noticed or been aware of my child's mental and emotional state!
By no means should you only strengthen your ME Reflex if you have kids. You HAVE to for your own sake. Not to mention God owns you! Yes, He made you so that you can live! He made the earth so that YOU can enjoy it, breathe the fresh air, smell the rain, see the beauty, feel the thunder, see the endless skies and feel the love for fellow humans! He gave us our senses in order to fully take in all that He has given us, but He also gave us our mind, heart and soul in order to take all that to the 100th degree!
So when we are having a malfunction, we need to do our best to fix it so that we can use what He so kindly gave us!
Thought for the day:
You are your most precious belonging, how well do you take care of your stuff?
Always
Dr. Nobody
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
Some might think that my last post was a little harsh. However, real life usually is. One might also wonder what parenting has to do with this Depression blog, it has a lot to do with it when you are the parent of a depressed person!
If we as parents did a better job at raising fine kids, we would better equip them with the tools they need to survive in this cruel world.
Kids are developing Depression at younger and younger ages than they were ten years ago! Our kids are freaking out. They don't know how to make real decisions. To them a choice is chocolate or vanilla ice cream!
When they are faced with real problems, they panic, don't measure consequences then when they have made the wrong choice, the get depressed. Then us parents are surprised and don't understand what went wrong or why our kids keep screwing up!
Because we didn't show them how to make wise decisions, how to think things through, not take things personally and show them that their best is enough. All these things feed into growing a strong healthy person.
Had certain values, lesson, wisdoms and concepts been shown to kids, the less chance there will be for them to ever have depression. Just like we should all be building up our immune systems, we need to help our kids build their ME Reflex too!
Now for the lax parents. You need to care more about your kids. Letting them roam the streets mean that the streets will teach them. Don't call yourself a parent if you are letting the world bring up your child.
Then when your kid goes missing or worse, you all cry and panic when you should be the one to blame. It's called neglect. You neglected to give a crap about where and who your kid hangs around with. How do you not know what your kids is doing? I don't get how people can care so little about their kids.
The world is not what it used to be. There are really bad people out there who are just waiting for you not to care about your kid. They are sitting around watching and loving how you leave you child to fend for itself.
Tell me, how are kids going to get involved in drugs, gangs, and sex if they are sitting in your house doing something productive while dinner is being made?
I just want to slap some parents!
We can prevent all these meltdowns that our kids are having if we just started to look at our parenting. We can give them the tools need to cope with life's problems and show them how to make the wiser choices and accept responsibility for their actions. As a parent you can help decrease the statistics of Depression in the younger generation.
Always
Dr. Nobody
If we as parents did a better job at raising fine kids, we would better equip them with the tools they need to survive in this cruel world.
Kids are developing Depression at younger and younger ages than they were ten years ago! Our kids are freaking out. They don't know how to make real decisions. To them a choice is chocolate or vanilla ice cream!
When they are faced with real problems, they panic, don't measure consequences then when they have made the wrong choice, the get depressed. Then us parents are surprised and don't understand what went wrong or why our kids keep screwing up!
Because we didn't show them how to make wise decisions, how to think things through, not take things personally and show them that their best is enough. All these things feed into growing a strong healthy person.
Had certain values, lesson, wisdoms and concepts been shown to kids, the less chance there will be for them to ever have depression. Just like we should all be building up our immune systems, we need to help our kids build their ME Reflex too!
Now for the lax parents. You need to care more about your kids. Letting them roam the streets mean that the streets will teach them. Don't call yourself a parent if you are letting the world bring up your child.
Then when your kid goes missing or worse, you all cry and panic when you should be the one to blame. It's called neglect. You neglected to give a crap about where and who your kid hangs around with. How do you not know what your kids is doing? I don't get how people can care so little about their kids.
The world is not what it used to be. There are really bad people out there who are just waiting for you not to care about your kid. They are sitting around watching and loving how you leave you child to fend for itself.
Tell me, how are kids going to get involved in drugs, gangs, and sex if they are sitting in your house doing something productive while dinner is being made?
I just want to slap some parents!
We can prevent all these meltdowns that our kids are having if we just started to look at our parenting. We can give them the tools need to cope with life's problems and show them how to make the wiser choices and accept responsibility for their actions. As a parent you can help decrease the statistics of Depression in the younger generation.
Always
Dr. Nobody
Monday, February 24, 2014
Stop giving your kids everything! Stop being the drill Sargent too!
Everything is about balance.
For the parents who buy and buy and keep buying things for their children, you are not doing them any favors. You are only showing them affections through materialism. I'm sure you love seeing their reaction when they receive all the things you give them and it "make you happy to see them happy", but let me tell you a secret: Their smiles are just as big when you sit and play cars with them, or have tea with Mr. Waffles!
For the parents who truly think that they have to overspend and over plan special events for their kids...is "over"reacting!
You are only teaching them that happy memories come from objects. I hate to brake it to you, but you have a mental problem! Do you not see that all the time, money and effort you spend on acting this way is really only for you? Yes, you are being selfish. It's you wanting to see their smile so you can feel a smile on your own face! It's similar to when a parent pushes their child to succeed in school and sports...those overachievers, it's the parent who is looking for the gratification. The recognition and the praise, and when awards are to be given the parents say" I'm so proud of you!". The Selfish parents just want the sense of pride because the have no feelings of genuine pride for anything else in their lives.
You are doing the same thing for your kids. And it's all fake. They don't really care about the new toy that just cost you an arm and a leg. They don't care that you bought all the party favors, all matching theme crap, a clown and a petting zoo rentals. How many times have you heard a sincere thank you from your kids for all that stuff you have done for them?
You need to brake that cycle before they grow up and think that that is how you love children. Hurry, before they do it to their kids!
Now for you super strict parents, you have mental problems too. You have control issues. So if you had kids just so you can have control of something, you deserve to have your kids taken away from you.
As a privilege from God, He intended that we would help bring up a child. Protect them and guide them. Doing so would result in adult who would then have their own children and protect and guide them too. That cycle was to be repeated not mistreated. Your children are not your soldiers or your slaves. They belong to God.
Can you imagine how it must feel to have entrusted us humans to help bring up life and yet most children have no idea who God is!
The further away we get form Him, the more screwed up things get and then we stupidly wonder why! Why is this world so horrible, why so many diseases, why so much death and hate?
Because we are teaching our kids to love material things, never showing them that natural affection and love for our neighbors is the cure to war and hate. We are teaching them that is is okay to be in control of other humans especially if they are "your kids and you are going to raise them how ever you please".
Get off you power trip, stop loving your kids with things and analyze yourself so that you can see how wrong you are, then brake the cycle and truly raise your kids with real love...God's love.
No wonder we are all depressed!
Thought for the day:
Parents who spoil---SPOIL is a negative word.
Parents who are drill Sgt.s- Find your fellow strict parents and go open a new jail, it will be filled with all your kids!
Parents who are lax-.....You'll be on the next blog!
Truly
Dr. Nobody
Everything is about balance.
For the parents who buy and buy and keep buying things for their children, you are not doing them any favors. You are only showing them affections through materialism. I'm sure you love seeing their reaction when they receive all the things you give them and it "make you happy to see them happy", but let me tell you a secret: Their smiles are just as big when you sit and play cars with them, or have tea with Mr. Waffles!
For the parents who truly think that they have to overspend and over plan special events for their kids...is "over"reacting!
You are only teaching them that happy memories come from objects. I hate to brake it to you, but you have a mental problem! Do you not see that all the time, money and effort you spend on acting this way is really only for you? Yes, you are being selfish. It's you wanting to see their smile so you can feel a smile on your own face! It's similar to when a parent pushes their child to succeed in school and sports...those overachievers, it's the parent who is looking for the gratification. The recognition and the praise, and when awards are to be given the parents say" I'm so proud of you!". The Selfish parents just want the sense of pride because the have no feelings of genuine pride for anything else in their lives.
You are doing the same thing for your kids. And it's all fake. They don't really care about the new toy that just cost you an arm and a leg. They don't care that you bought all the party favors, all matching theme crap, a clown and a petting zoo rentals. How many times have you heard a sincere thank you from your kids for all that stuff you have done for them?
You need to brake that cycle before they grow up and think that that is how you love children. Hurry, before they do it to their kids!
Now for you super strict parents, you have mental problems too. You have control issues. So if you had kids just so you can have control of something, you deserve to have your kids taken away from you.
As a privilege from God, He intended that we would help bring up a child. Protect them and guide them. Doing so would result in adult who would then have their own children and protect and guide them too. That cycle was to be repeated not mistreated. Your children are not your soldiers or your slaves. They belong to God.
Can you imagine how it must feel to have entrusted us humans to help bring up life and yet most children have no idea who God is!
The further away we get form Him, the more screwed up things get and then we stupidly wonder why! Why is this world so horrible, why so many diseases, why so much death and hate?
Because we are teaching our kids to love material things, never showing them that natural affection and love for our neighbors is the cure to war and hate. We are teaching them that is is okay to be in control of other humans especially if they are "your kids and you are going to raise them how ever you please".
Get off you power trip, stop loving your kids with things and analyze yourself so that you can see how wrong you are, then brake the cycle and truly raise your kids with real love...God's love.
No wonder we are all depressed!
Thought for the day:
Parents who spoil---SPOIL is a negative word.
Parents who are drill Sgt.s- Find your fellow strict parents and go open a new jail, it will be filled with all your kids!
Parents who are lax-.....You'll be on the next blog!
Truly
Dr. Nobody
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